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Hurricanes, Football & Lessons 101 [EXPERT]

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Hurricanes, Football & Lessons 101 [EXPERT]
Learn how to prevent fighting to enjoy the loving relationship you deserve!
What does it really take for a man and woman to love one another unconditionally?

I dislike when I get writer's block, especially with so many wonderful and inspiring things I can write about! I heard a rumor that it is acceptable to plagiarize yourself, and that's what I'll be doing from time to time! I've had a long-standing blog, here, and this was one with some great lessons written just after a massive hurricane hit the Eastern Seaboard. I hope you enjoy it!

We survived Hurricane Irene here in New York. It was windy, rainy and muggy and I discovered something that I already knew: nature is amazingly beautiful. I didn't ride it out alone. Not alone at all. I had two of my closest friends here with me. Guy friends. Men that I admire and who admire me. Men that I would take a bullet for.

We shopped, cooked, ate and played football in the rain. We taped windows, hung plywood and 2X4's, watched movies and did guy stuff all weekend long. We had meetings about our lives and deep discussions that forced us to bond. We ate all my munchies and I got a ton of work done on my workshop. Aside from all of that, we did something else too. We fought and argued. We did not always show each other the love and respect that we all know we have for one another.

There lies the challenge for men and women.

If three men who are best friends can't get along well for a mere forty-eight hours cooped up together, what chance do men and women have who are trying to be together, build a life together, and love one another unconditionally forever? You see, as men and powerful, confident men at that, we clean up very quickly when we have a disagreement and move on to more important things. 9 Common Reasons Why Couples Fight

But when men and women fight, we sometimes tend to bring up the past. Sometimes, a man will lose control and scare their woman into submission. Sometimes a woman will lose her temper and guilt her man into a shameful feeling about himself. Mature, masculine men will not engage their women in battle. Women similarly need to learn when to settle down and allow their men to "go to their cave" until they are in the right mindset to discuss, and not fight, often about something quite silly. How To Tell If He Has A Temper

Loving someone for life is probably one of the most difficult things a person can do, yet nothing is more valuable, more fulfilling, or more important than love.

All you need is love. I heard that somewhere. Thanks John.

Spike
http://www.DeMistyfiedDating.com

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David Osterczy

Author, Dating Coach, Matchmaker, Relationship Coach, Speaker/Presenter, Spiritual Healer, Wellness Coach, YourTango Expert Partner

David "Spike" Osterczy (www.DeMistyfiedDating.com)

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Location: Bronx, NY
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