Why Men Cheat

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Why Men Cheat
Think you know what causes a man to stray? Read this and find the uncomfortable truth.

Obviously, the men in group number one are a lost cause.  These unrepentant horndogs will cheat.  Period.  If there is no opportunity they will make one.  What you do or don’t do is of no consequence.  It is not, however, so cut-and-dried for group number two.  While they are certainly vulnerable to temptation, if they are satisfied in their relationships they are unlikely to go on the prowl.  Sure, if something (or someone) drops into their laps, they may give in to their desire, but their happiness with you and their relationship (and to no small extent, their sex life) may give them strong incentive to resist.  Conversely, if they feel unfulfilled in their relationship, they are likely to use their dissatisfaction as an excuse to cheat.  While this is obviously a rationalization, it is all many men in this group need to justify doing what their penis is prompting them to do anyway.  In group number three, however, the opposite is the case.  Short of physical and mental abuse, these guys will remain faithful almost to a fault.  And while that is certainly an admirable quality, their dogged adherence to a strict moral code could annoyingly extend to other parts of their life, including areas in which you might rightly wish they were a bit more flexible.

So, as you see, groups one and three are virtually unfazed by what you say or do.  Group two, however, may be influenced by lack of contentment in their relationship, but contentment alone is not enough to guarantee their fidelity.  This group would be wise to avoid situations that would test their ability to resist temptation.  And while I know this may not be what you wanted to hear, knowing the truth about men allows you to make informed decisions about who you choose to associate with and what you can reasonably expect from them.
 

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Besides being a relationship coach and author of the controversial book, "Every Man Sees You Naked: An Insider's Guide to How Men Think," David M. Matthews is an Emmy-winning TV Writer/Producer who's worked on some of television's best shows.

For more information on David or to get a copy of his free report on "The 3 Things Men Are REALLY Looking For In A Relationship," go to www.EveryManSeesYouNaked.com.

 

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Besides being a relationship coach and author of the controversial book, "Every Man Sees You Naked: An Insider’s Guide to How Men Think," David M. Matthews is an Emmy-winning TV Writer/Producer who’s worked on some of television’s favorite shows.

For more information on David or to get a copy of his free report on "The 3 Things Men Are REALLY Looking For In A Relationship," go to www.EveryManSeesYouNaked.com.

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