Male-Female Platonic Friendship? Yeah, Right

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Male-Female Platonic Friendship? Yeah, Right [EXPERT]
Is platonic friendship possible between members of the opposite sex?

If you are like many women today, in addition to your numerous female friends, you also have several male friends. For the most part, these are guys you don't date, but you enjoy their company. You hang out with them, share what's going on in your personal lives, get their male perspective on things, but that's about as far as it goes. 9 Things You Need To Know About Condoms

Sure, you love them, but like brothers. And you wouldn't even think about ever having sex with them, because that's not what your relationship is about and you know they feel exactly the same way. They cherish your company and friendship, but unlike all the other men in your life, they have absolutely no interest in you sexually.

I'm here to say that you can be absolutely confident that this is true if they are either under the age of ten, comatose, or gay. Otherwise, you're living in a fool's paradise. 10 Clues To Tell If He Is Cheating

I know what you are thinking: your male friends like you only as a friend. Are you sure? Or are you just assuming because you don't think of them "in that way" that they feel similarly? Now, I admit that these relationships seem innocent enough. After all, you've spent lots of time together and they've never once indicated any sexual interest in you. 10 Things Men Love About Breasts

If they were craving you sexually, wouldn't they have said something? Obviously, they are immune to the gravitational pull of your bodies that keep other men orbiting you like hormone-infused asteroids. Sure, on the surface it appears their interest is purely platonic, but trust me when I tell you that, know it or not, their groins are casting furtive glances at your nether region when it's not looking.

So, why haven't they said or done anything to let you know how they truly feel? There could be a few reasons:

1. One or both of you might be in a relationship and the timing is wrong.

2. They know you have no sexual interest in them, and any move they make will be met with negativity, anger or serious laughter.

3. They have no "game" and don’t know how to make a move on you.

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