9 Things You Need To Know About Condoms

By

9 Things You Need To Know About Condoms [EXPERT]
Safe sex isn't so safe if you don't know the basic rules of condom usage. Here's the lowdown!

7. A quick word about spermicides. Use of this stealthy sperm assassin can enhance the contraceptive effectiveness of the condom. It may be discreetly purchased online or at your local drug store. Some condoms are even "pre-lubed" with a spermicidal agent. Whatever your choice, if you are serious about putting off parenthood, a spermicide is an effective complement to other contraceptive measures.

8. So, he properly put on his non-expired condom prior to contact with your private parts. He glazed his completely sheathed erection with the recommended lubricant and then insinuated himself inside your hospitable environment. Then you two went at it like rabbits. Now, if you don't want to have bunnies in your future, there is still one more thing he needs to do. Very soon after he has had his orgasm, he must grip the condom at the base, near his testicles, and carefully extricate himself from the warmth of your loins. In plain English, he should come and go.

 

As soon as your guy ejaculates, he begins to lose his erection. This gradual "shrinkage" causes the condom to fit less snuggly and allows for the contained seminal fluid to begin slithering down his shaft and out of the bottom of the condom. If your man is still imbedded in you, all his escaping swimmers may breaststroke their way into your lower passage and search for an egg to cozy up to. You don't want that to happen, right? So, gently but firmly, insist he "vacate your premises" very soon after he's done his thing. 10 Things Men Love About Breasts

9. Once he's safely withdrawn, he should dispose of his condom in the trash. Suggest to him that he not flush it down the toilet, as it may clog your pipes. He then should wash all remaining remnants of his "love-juice" off his member before rejoining you in bed to revel in the afterglow. Keep his penis at an arms length of your vagina. A few stray drops of his discharge could be lurking at his penile tip, ready to make their assault on your now unprotected womanhood.

So there it is. Everything you and your guy need to know about how to properly protect both of you from unwanted pregnancy and the spread of nasty illnesses. Although you may think he already knows all this, if he uses a condom and doesn't strictly adhere to all of the above mentioned procedures, he really is putting both of you at risk. But, if you don't feel comfortable broaching the subject with him, feel free to literally take matters into your own hands. You can then turn applying, "lubing" and removing his condom into a sexy, positive experience. He will likely appreciate your efforts without ever realizing that your motivation was his lack of knowledge. You protected his ego and your health. What could be better than that?

© 2008 David M. Matthews. All Rights Reserved.

Besides being a relationship coach and author of the controversial book, "Every Man Sees You Naked: An Insider's Guide to How Men Think," David M. Matthews is an Emmy-winning TV Writer/Producer who's worked on some of television's best shows.

For more information on David or to get a copy of his free report on "The 3 Things Men Are REALLY Looking For In A Relationship," go to www.EveryManSeesYouNaked.com.

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission.
Article contributed by
Advanced Member

David M. Matthews

Author

Besides being a relationship coach and author of the controversial book, "Every Man Sees You Naked: An Insider’s Guide to How Men Think," David M. Matthews is an Emmy-winning TV Writer/Producer who’s worked on some of television’s favorite shows.

For more information on David or to get a copy of his free report on "The 3 Things Men Are REALLY Looking For In A Relationship," go to www.EveryManSeesYouNaked.com.

Location: Porter Ranch, CA
Credentials: Other
Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues, Dating/Being Single Support
Other Articles/News by David M. Matthews:

Getting Men To Stop "Fixing" Your Emotions

By

Question: My significant other does not know how to handle my emotion when I am depressed or sad. He said he wanted to fix things, but he does not know how, so now he tends to shy away. And his avoidance only makes me feel worse. Is there a way for us to arrive at a happy medium? —Rhonda Answer: This is a great question, and one that has ... Read more

Change Of Heart: Now She Wants Him Back

By

Question: My ex and I broke up several months ago after five years. Right after the break-up (which was pretty much mutual) I became desperate and needy, begging for him back, which obviously only pushed him away. Now that we've gone almost two months with no contact, we've started texting a very little bit here and there. I'm looking to get back ... Read more

Should She Pursue Former Crush...20 Years Later?

By

Question: I have an unusual situation here...a guy I served with in the military back in my twenties (we are in our mid 40's now), found me on Facebook two years ago (I was married then).  He often sent me texts: jokes, political things, discussions about our kids (we both have teenaged boys, he's divorced).  We discovered that we had crushes ... Read more

See More

 
Latest Expert Videos
ASK YOURTANGO MORE QUESTIONS
Must-see Videos
SEE MORE VIDEOS
Most Popular