9 Things You Need To Know About Condoms


9 Things You Need To Know About Condoms [EXPERT]
Safe sex isn't so safe if you don't know the basic rules of condom usage. Here's the lowdown!

Last week I wrote a column on the secrets of men. I spilled the beans on the fact that most men don't know much about condoms, except that they're a mood-killer, sensation-duller and overall huge pain. In that article, I didn't elaborate. But, judging from your emails I piqued a number of reader's curiosity. Thus, I am responding with a short treatise on "The Proper Care and Feeding of a Prophylactic."

Before I begin, I want to address a few questions that might understandably be crossing your mind, such as, "Why is he giving instructions to women on condom usage?" or "Don't we have enough birth control methods to be in charge of?" All fair questions. But, the bottom line on this subject is despite readily available instructions, guys are woefully unaware of their lack of knowledge in this arena.


If men are ignorant about how to properly apply, use, remove and dispose of a condom, women are the ones who are going to pay the price. With the price being unwanted pregnancy or contraction of a potentially fatal disease. The need for you to be educated becomes imperative. It may not be your job, but if your guy is misinformed or clueless, you will still have to endure the consequences. 10 Clues To Tell If He Is Cheating

The first thing to know about condoms is that they were not originally developed to stop pregnancy. In fact, when they came into existence their mission was to stop the spread of sexually transmitted diseases. Their usage as a contraceptive device didn't come into play until more than a century later, when scientists finally figured out that providing a barrier could effectively limit the number of legitimate and illegitimate offspring. So it was, that this pesky penis protector, then made of animal intestines, found its way into the hearts, minds and vaginas of our sexually active ancestors.

Let's talk about modern condoms and their usage. As you know, when used correctly, today's latex condoms are touted to be about 97 percent effective as a contraceptive device. They also offer one of the best defenses against sexually transmitted diseases this side of keeping your legs tightly crossed. Animal skin condoms, while purportedly offering similar pregnancy protection and more sensation to the male, are a less effective method of stemming the flow of organisms that cause sexually transmitted diseases. So, how are these condoms properly used?

1. Always check the expiration date on the condom. This is something men generally neglect. While sometimes difficult to do in the heat and low-light of passionate encounters, it is vital to the process of effective usage. You wouldn't drink expired milk and the worst that could cause is gastrointestinal distress. Expired condoms can cause babies and death.

2. The condom needs to be put on before any close encounters with your lower lips. The pre-ejaculate fluid that loiters at the penis tip can contain sperm and transmittable microbes, if your partner is infected with a sexually transmitted disease. So, "no rubbin,' without a rubber."

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David M. Matthews


Besides being a relationship coach and author of the controversial book, "Every Man Sees You Naked: An Insider’s Guide to How Men Think," David M. Matthews is an Emmy-winning TV Writer/Producer who’s worked on some of television’s favorite shows.

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