3 In oral sex, the voyeur in us really has a chance to come into play. Unless we have mirrors or video recording devices in our bedroom, we never really get to visually experience "normal sex" when we are actively participating in it. But with oral sex, we have the opportunity to see you work your magic or our private parts. We get to watch you pleasure us, which only further enhances our enjoyment of the act. It's like we're starring in our own little pornographic film…and you know how much we enjoy our dirty movies.
4. Oral sex is all about recreation, not procreation. The goal is pleasure not progeny. In other words, it's an opportunity to have a good time without the risk of eighteen years of financial commitment. It's orgasm without a price tag — and we really like that. Oral Sex 101: What You Need To Know
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5. Your willingness to unselfishly service us makes us feel good about ourselves. You're catering to our needs without demanding anything in return. Thus oral sex is a treat, of sorts, a little bonus given lovingly to us by someone who wants nothing more than to make us feel good. And what's not to like about that?
I am not, however, saying that you must engage in this sexual practice in order to satisfy your man. If the idea of engaging in such an act repulses you, and your vagina has been sexually doing all the heavy lifting for years without complaints from your man, then “why fix it if it ain't broke?” Does It Matter If You're 'Sexually Normal?'
On the other hand, if you're looking to spice up your sexual repertoire with a performance piece that's sure to earn you a standing ovation from your man's sexual apparatus, then a blowjob is the ticket. It's the perfect gift for all occasions, and there's very little chance he'll want to exchange it, re-gift it, or return it for store credit.
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Besides being a relationship coach and author of the controversial book, "Every Man Sees You Naked: An Insider's Guide to How Men Think," David M. Matthews is an Emmy-winning TV Writer/Producer who's worked on some of television's best shows. For more information on David or to get a copy of his free report on "The 3 Things Men Are REALLY Looking For In A Relationship," go to www.EveryManSeesYouNaked.com.