I also cannot be certain if your husband’s current confusion about your future together is a result of his lack of commitment to your relationship, or his fear that your continual distrust of him (justifiable or not) has inevitably doomed your chances of marital success. What I can be certain of is that your relationship has reached critical mass. You must either decide to do whatever it takes to resolve your issues and conflicts, or end the relationship before things deteriorate further. It certainly might be helpful to seek the services of an experienced marriage counselor to help sort things out.
If it turns out that your husband was, in fact, unfaithful, you must decide if you can forgive him and move past it, or if his betrayal is a “deal-breaker.” On the other hand, if your suspicions and accusations prove unwarranted, then you have some serious trust issues that you must deal with. Failure to do so will only guarantee discord in this and all future relationships. And while I know my assessment isn’t particularly sunny, there is always hope. If you both are committed to making your marriage work, then it probably will. If not, then it’s best you determine that now, so that you can minimize the pain and suffering you both may have to endure.
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Besides being a relationship coach and author of the controversial book, "Every Man Sees You Naked: An Insider's Guide to How Men Think," David M. Matthews is an Emmy-winning TV Writer/Producer who's worked on some of television's best shows.
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