Practice this technique for a few sessions, finally working up to intercourse. When you do finally achieve penetration, allow him to only thrust a little, pulling out and applying the “squeeze” before he is able to “pop.” Repeat this a few times, until you both feel comfortable that control has been achieved. Then, and only then, proceed slowly to mutual, unrushed release.
While this should prove effective, it does require a significant patience and commitment on both your parts, as well as open and honest communication. It also is advisable that he refrain from masturbating between sexual encounters, as he may inadvertently be falling back into unhealthy speedy-release patterns. And though the wait may be a bit frustrating for you both, we hope the outcome (no pun intended) will make it all worthwhile.
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