How do you do that? Well, to some degree, that is what the doctor your man visited was trying to do. The psychotropic drugs he prescribed often have a side effect which can inhibit orgasm. Normally, that’s an unwanted result, but in this case, that was likely the goal. Also, some men who are premature ejaculators have erectile dysfunction issues, as well, and sometimes there may be a cause-and-effect relationship between the two. As such, the physician was trying to make sure that anxiety over getting and maintaining an erection was not playing a role in your man’s rapid-fire performance.
But since neither of these seemed to yield satisfactory results, and creams and topical numbing treatments tend to diminish sensitivity (sometimes for both of you) I suggest another approach. It is a therapy developed by esteemed sexual researchers, Masters & Johnson (not to be confused with Johnson & Johnson), called the “Squeeze Technique.” Let me first assure you that it is not painful or particularly unpleasant, and it has proven to be highly effective in quickly (in a good way) retraining men and their penises to be more considerate, long-term visitors to hospitable vaginas everywhere.
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To employ this technique, you must first get him aroused and erect by any means you choose (feel free to be creative). Continue working your magic until he feels the impending approach of orgasm, at which point he must immediately let you know. This is very important. As soon as he identifies those familiar pre-ejaculatory sensations, he must tell you. Quickly grip his penis, placing your index and middle finger on top of his glans (the mushroom-shaped head of his penis) and your thumb against the front, underside of the glans where the foreskin attaches. Now - squeeze (hence the name). Be firm in your squeezing for about 4 or 5 seconds. His need to ejaculate should quickly pass and he will lose some of his erection. Now resume sexual play, avoiding direct contact with his penis for a few minutes. Once he is fully erect again, repeat the procedure. Do this several times, allowing him to pleasure you manually or orally, but never letting him ejaculate. Do not attempt penetration, no matter how tempted you are. That will undermine all your efforts. And since your guy could use a few pointers on the female anatomy and how to please you, you should take this opportunity (in the sexiest manner possible) to show him how to bring you to orgasm. Somebody might as well climax, and tonight it’s not going to be him - under any circumstance. This may seem to him like a punishment, but truly it is not. It is delayed gratification, and it is absolutely necessary to retraining his penis to be able to “go the distance.”