Help, I Think The ‘Other Woman’ Has A Penis!

By David M. Matthews. Posted on Jan 9th 2013.

Should you be threatened if your boyfriend's still hot for his ex - the girl with something extra?

That said, do you really want a future with a guy who prefers fantasy women with penises over you with your decidedly more traditional feminine parts? It seems to me that you deserve a man who actually desires to be intimate with you, and doesn’t just occasionally “throw you one” to keep you hanging in there with him. Perhaps it’s time for both of you to take an honest look at your relationship, since it seems that neither of you are particularly satisfied with your situation. Though you may truly love each other, it may still be necessary for you to go your separate ways so that you might both be free to openly pursue the male, female, or she-male of your respective dreams.

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Besides being a relationship coach and author of the controversial book, "Every Man Sees You Naked: An Insider's Guide to How Men Think," David M. Matthews is an Emmy-winning TV Writer/Producer who's worked on some of television's best shows.

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Besides being a relationship coach and author of the controversial book, "Every Man Sees You Naked: An Insider’s Guide to How Men Think," David M. Matthews is an Emmy-winning TV Writer/Producer who’s worked on some of television’s favorite shows.

For more information on David or to get a copy of his free report on "The 3 Things Men Are REALLY Looking For In A Relationship," go to www.EveryManSeesYouNaked.com.

Location: Porter Ranch, CA

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Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues, Dating/Being Single Support

Website: http://www.EveryManSeesYouNaked.com

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