7) Not listening
Very few non-physical qualities are more appealing to a woman than a man who actually listens to them. And conversely, nothing is quite so off-putting as a guy who doesn’t.
8) Insisting on discussing topics not of interest to his date
One of the key elements of successful dating is establishing a rapport. A guy blathering on endlessly about subjects that are fascinating only to him, will most certainly assure his first date is also his last.
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9) Being a “yes” man
Being overly solicitous and agreeing with everything his date says may initially be quite refreshing and appealing to her. Soon, however, a man’s refusal to offer an opinion of his own and reluctance to demonstrate he has a backbone, will cause her to lose respect for him, and without that, the relationship is dead-in-the-water.
10) Regaling his date with stories of his wild past
A guy’s buddies may be infinitely amused by his tales of drunken debauchery, but confessing his ill-advised exploits on a date, no matter how ‘hilarious,’ is a crap shoot at best. While his date may be entertained, she may just as easily question his character and judgment. The smart guy keeps his liquor-soaked nostalgia to himself.
The above is by no means a comprehensive list. There are virtually hundreds of things a man can inadvertently do to alienate his date. On the other hand, if a guy is really attracted to you, there are only about two sure-fire ways of throwing cold water on his “fire:” 1) Tell him that under no circumstances will you ever have sex with him; or 2) Tell him you’re a dude.
© 2009 David M. Matthews. All rights reserved.
Besides being a relationship coach and author of the controversial book, "Every Man Sees You Naked: An Insider's Guide to How Men Think," David M. Matthews is an Emmy-winning TV Writer/Producer who's worked on some of television's best shows.
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