Why Would Anyone Want To Date You?

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Why Would Anyone Want To Date You?
If you can’t answer that simple question, you are in for a world of pain

As a coach, I help my clients do this every single day. The truth is, you were born absolutely perfect and then somewhere along the way, a number of things happened that caused you to forget, question or under-value the inherent worth that was your birthright. Then perhaps no one taught you a few key distinctions that can make a WORLD of difference in the results you get. Or maybe you developed some learned behaviors that have done nothing but sabotage you each and every time. Honestly, it could be any number of things – and usually they’re nestled away quietly in your “blind spots” – those emotional “black holes” that swallow up and hide the very keys to freedom that could turn it all around for you. The beauty of coaching is that it helps you ask the right questions and bring those blind spots into view. Then, once we discover them, we can heal them, put them to rest and begin anew with a clean slate.

Clarity is power

 

The gift of coaching is that it gets you crystal clear on exactly what you want and sets you up on the path to creating it. I know someone very well who shared with me a powerful moment from her own relationship coaching before we knew one another that was a huge turning point for her. She was literally brought to tears by one simple question her coach asked: “What exactly is your dating purpose?” Seems like a simple question right? The problem was that buried deep beneath that question was one of those blind spots I mentioned. Once the sobs came without warning, it became clear that the disappointment and struggle of a prior divorce, a fear of being vulnerable again – and a paralyzing fear of saying that yes, she did actually want to get married again – came spilling out. Now the bad news is – that conflict alone was more than enough to self-sabotage any potential new romance every time. (Perhaps you know someone who may be on this path?) The great news is – once that fear was out in the light of day, it was relatively easy to dissolve and move past – and the really great news is – this lady is now in a beautiful and very fulfilling relationship with a man who adores her. That’s the power of doing your own work and showing up healed, “whole” and ready for love.

What is life like on the other side?

If you don’t know what it’s like to show up in a relationship feeling empowered, confident and perfectly “whole,” it’s like trying to describe the sweet fragrance of a rose to someone with no sense of smell or imagination. It’s incredibly difficult to accurately convey the feeling effectively...but it's not nearly as hard as trying to co-create a fulfilling relationship when you don't know your own value. Simply put, if you want to welcome in all the love you deserve, you need to know very clearly what value you bring to the table and why someone would want to date you.

 

If you think you may have some sort of a blind spot of your own that causes you to struggle or even self-sabotage, I highly recommend some work with a coach or therapist – ideally, one who specializes in relationships. In fact, if you’d like to discuss it with me, I’d welcome an opportunity to help shed some light on those blind spots so contact me and we’ll set up a time to speak.

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Dave Elliott

Dating Coach

Dave Elliott is a Relationship Expert and Coach who works with clients all over the world. If you're serious about attracting, creating or maintaining the fulfilling relationship of your dreams, contact Dave for a free consultation or check out his work online. He is the founder of Legendary Love For Life and the creator of The ManMagnetics Formula.™

Location: Baltimore, MD
Credentials: EFT
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