Ladies...what if you have men all wrong?

By

Ladies...what if you have men all wrong?
You can either bring out the best in your man...or suffer through his worst. Which would you prefer?

By the same token, feminine energy is here to BALANCE OUT THE SYSTEM. Feminine is the “fairer sex” because it balances out all that intellect in the head with emotion and feelings in the heart. That’s why “female intuition” is a powerful tool for discerning feelings and truth. The beauty of the feminine is it brings nurturing and care-taking. Feminine is about connection and bonding when masculine can sometimes be dark and solitary in order to “unplug” and relax. I call it H.E.R.S.™ and it stands for Human Emotional Response System. One challenge of an emotional navigation system is that occasionally it can be overwhelming when all that emotion hits at once or gets bottled up inside for too long. Put another way, if masculine is about survival, feminine is about enhancement.

Different – and perfectly complimentary

As you can see, our strengths, abilities and gifts are quite different – but all of them are critical to the complete human experience. They are meant to be complimentary yet somehow we’ve DE-volved over the years in many ways from a cooperative model to a competitive model. Generations of misunderstandings and power struggles brought us great benefits like women’s suffrage, equal rights and other necessary world-changing advances...but left unchecked, the shift can become adversarial or even downright antagonistic when it goes too far.

So if this much “feels” like it could be true...what else could it mean?

Pick up any woman’s magazine at the checkout counter and it will likely have numerous articles that are “less than flattering” when it comes to their conclusions regarding textbook masculine behavior. I ask the question: is it possible that the writer’s offering a biased opinion created through a feminine filter? Consider this:

• Are men just players out for one thing?

While it may be true in many cases that masculine energy frequently prefers to experience love through physical or kinesthetic contact of some kind, what if it’s not exactly the kind of heartless victimizing behavior that is too often portrayed? The fact is, usually masculine energy (which is logic-based) opens to love through sex while feminine energy (which is emotion-based) opens to sex through love. There’s that complimentary concept again. While it’s most certainly painful to feel “used,” that kind of belief focuses on a victim mentality...which just happens to be the EXACT opposite of what men really want...an empowered and radiant woman who knows her value.

• Do men avoid commitment?

While it may “appear” to have some basis in fact, the truth is men want love also...but it has to meet their needs as well. The challenge is masculine energy is hard-wired with a strong desire for freedom so that conflicts with the feminine need to feel “safe” or in other words, “committed.” What if the issue isn’t commitment at all and it’s simply a timing issue and a straight-up decision regarding the pros and cons of giving up one need for another? I submit to you that men absolutely WILL commit and even die for you when they have enough good reasons to do it.

Article contributed by
Advanced Member

Dave Elliott

Dating Coach

Dave Elliott is a Relationship Expert and Coach who works with clients all over the world. If you're serious about attracting, creating or maintaining the fulfilling relationship of your dreams, contact Dave for a free consultation or check out his work online. He is the founder of Legendary Love For Life and the creator of The ManMagnetics Formula.™

Location: Baltimore, MD
Credentials: EFT
Other Articles/News by Dave Elliott:

What Your Sloppy Eating Habits Say About Your Sex Life

By

My wife and I were out to lunch recently and when she stepped away for a moment, I noticed a couple at the next table eating together. They seemed to be a bit of a mismatch already but then I noticed his table manners. Let's just say they left a little something to be desired. Then I wondered, what must this pretty, polished woman with him think. I glanced ... Read more

Yikes! Romantic Comedies Actually Ruin Relationships

By

According to a study coming up in "Psychology of Popular Media Culture," researchers at the University of Michigan conducted a survey designed to test how the shows we watch on TV, specifically sitcoms, romantic comedies and reality-based dating shows affect (or is that infect?) our outlook on love. According to the results, they found that people who ... Read more

How’s Your Dating Bullsh*t Detector?

By

Recently I had a conversation in an online relationship forum where I coach and one woman brought up the term "bullsh*t detector." She referred to it as a "protective instinct" and seemed kind of proudly defiant, and a little defensive, all at the same time. I get that some people believe a sharp and finely-tuned BS detector is a must-have ... Read more

See More

Ask The Experts

Have a dating or relationship question?
Visit Ask YourTango and let our experts and community answer.

FROM AROUND THE WEB