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A Woman Dishes On Pickup Techniques That Actually Work EVERY TIME

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We're on to your tired, frequently-used pickup lines, so listen up.

You're a guy, hanging out with your friends at your favorite haunt. Suddenly, you notice the woman of your dreams (or at least your dreams for the night).

You feel plagued with uncertainty about how to approach this glorious person — you don't want to over-do it, after all, but you do want to make the perfect impression.

Here are 6 dos and don'ts to consider when you're mulling over what kind of pick up technique to use on a woman (from a woman!).

1. DO Be honest.

This is an infallible way to garner the kind of attention you want from your potential crush.

Simply going over to her and saying, "Hey, I just wanted to let you know that as soon as I saw you, I wanted to talk to you ..." makes for a complimentary and not-too-cocky approach, and it works like a charm!

2. DO use specific compliments.

Telling a woman right off the bat that you think they're cute, attractive, etc. will net you some points (but NEVER call her "hot," always use the word "beautiful"). Use specific compliments that are unique to her. After all, everyone likes to feel special. Try something like, "I really like how that sweater matches the green in your eyes." Most women think men don't look at their eyes!

3. DO ask questions, and really listen to the answers.

There's nothing worse than a bad listener. Really.

Everyone feels like they're the center of the universe, and that what they're saying is important—but you've got to learn to actually listen to a person instead of simply waiting for your turn to speak. It's not only polite, but it shows confidence!

4. DON'T be arrogant.

Being confident in a sweet and genuine way will work every time, but being arrogant? That's never okay. There's a big difference between the two, and you need to find the balance. I think we can all agree that confident people are sexy, but conceited people definitely aren’t.

5. DON'T get corny or lewd.

Ancient pick up lines that compare a person's eyes to the ocean, or their bodies to those of angels, have never worked. Don't even think about trying them — even if you're only trying to make her laugh. Never use vulgar language when you're attempting to talk to a woman for the first time—it's unattractive and downright disgusting.

6. DON'T just talk about yourself.

It's easy to get nervous and ramble on for days about that trip to Alaska you took when you were twelve, but, trust me — no one wants to hear that. Make sure you're both contributing evenly to the conversation, and you'll be good to go!

Remember, just act natural!

Instead of acting like someone else when you approach a woman, try just being yourself. If you follow the techniques above, you will definitely pique my interest!

This article was originally published at Single Middle Aged Guys. Reprinted with permission from the author.


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