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3 Simple Ways to SLOW DOWN on Difficult Days

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How you CAN stop your daily fight against the clock

Nature is taking winter time to slow down and rest. Are you?

Or are you experiencing more stress in winter than in any other period of the year?

Holiday Season is over which brings us back to the normal routine of daily life. Due to our short winter days in this period, we feel how the lack of daylight effects our system and how the cold weather tests our immunity daily.

We “must” and “should” do so much in the coming weeks to get our year going, that we often fight against the clock. Meanwhile, our bodies and minds are craving rest and balance to get through the winter period.

Most of us do not take the time for conscious self-care. Worse, we find many excuses not to slow down and seldom give our body and mind the best care it needs and deserves. That is why we get out of balance. That is why we get sick or exhausted.

Here are 3 simple ways to slow down to the speed of life and regain your balance.

1. Take a helicopter view

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” Dr. W Dyer

All too often, we found ourselves in the “middle” of stress, pressure and chaos. You cannot slow down or calm down if you only see the negative, the problem and the drama. You have to take yourself out of the situation to be able to change your view, your perception. Only then can you evaluate it, see the opportunity or the solution and take conscious action to change your reality.

A conscious perception not only calms you, it also frees you.

2. Have a “minute break” in between

“Stop a minute, right where you are. Relax your shoulders, shake your head and spine like a dog shaking off cold water. Tell that imperious voice in your head to be still.” Barbara Kingsolver

There is no better way to slow down for yourself, your mind and your body, then to take a minute or two to stop with everything that you are doing in times of difficulty or stress.

Just STOP. Go to the toilet, open the windows to take a deep breath or do a few stretch exercises. Just like the dog, shaking off cold water, let everything that bothers you glide off your shoulders and let it go. You do not need to carry all this stuff with you.

3. Keep your free time “free.”  

“There is virtue in work and there is virtue in rest. Use both and overlook neither.” Leonard Cohen

Are you settled in a routine of work, eat and sleep? Do you seldom take time for yourself to rest and play?

Slowing down in life means taking time to rest and enjoy free time besides your working hours. Keep your free time “free.” You need to take that time yourself. Nobody will give it to you. As a sensitive person, it is easy to live to please, save and help everybody instead of giving as much time to yourself.

Me-time is of essence to balance yourself in difficult times.  Spoil yourself with doing “nothing” or spend quality time with yourself by doing something that absolutely refuels your energy tank. You deserve it as much as anybody else.

There is no better way to improve your life than to improve your conscious self-care.

You are worthy of your best self-care ever to make this your best year ever! Enjoy!

To discover more simple-but-powerful steps to activate conscious self-care and stress-free living and set healthy boundaries for yourself, visit my website www.daniellesax.com. Register for a “Breakthrough Session”, so we can see what your best next step into a life of balance and inner strength can be.

This article was originally published at Danielle Sax. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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