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Find The Courage To Finally 'Let Go'

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Find The Courage To Finally 'Let Go'
Let go before the dark settles in and over.
How proactively choosing to 'let go' can do wonders for your life!

We’ve talked about sucking it up and being awesome. But what about letting go? Does letting go mean giving up? Why should you let go?

Let go because life has backed you into a corner. Let go because you deserve better. Different. Let go because it’s more painful to hold on.

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If you refuse to you will suffocate under the weight and pressure. Because whatever “it” is? It’s asking you to let go. IT wants to be let go of. IT is dying so that something else new, fresh and alive can be born. And the longer you fight the “let-go” the more constricting your situation will become.

Proactively choosing to let go is different than passively letting go whereby life snatchs things from your clutches. Passively letting go is harsh and violent. Active letting go, can be painful. But at the same time, it can also be liberating and steeped in relief. Moving on & Looking Back

Borrow the courage to let go before heavy takes root. Before dark settles in and over. When you proactively choose to let go, you make delicious space for what you really want to show up. When you let go, you allow the acceptance of “what is” to begin healing you. When you let go, you stop fighting a fruitless battle and bow to the perfect limitations of your situation.

With a heart ripped wide open, you graciously, clearly understand that this is all they have to offer and it's not enough. A sentimental item brings a heavy heart and so you must store it, sell it, give it away. It’s time to move on. From this job, this town and this home. It’s been good but you must continue to grow somewhere else.

Don’t wait until you're “ready.” The waiting is full of wrought and angst. You have carried it long enough. Crouched under its weight long enough.Unclench your fists, open your hands and let the old pain roll off your palms, cascade through your fingers and slip away.

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