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Is It Time To 'Suck It Up?'

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Is It Time To 'Suck It Up?'
when life gets truly wild, we need to get all warrior on it.

I got whipped.

And I liked it.

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Last week I sauntered up to a brief but fierce call with the high-priestess of straight-talk herself, Erika Lyremark. In case you’re not in the know, when the creater of The Daily Whip offers you an ass-kicking- you show up.

Hey, I like a good lesson. Dish it up sister.

Confession: my life has been off the hook busy recently. We’re talking beyond the usual chaotic circus. No, it has hit a whole new level of kah-razz-ee. Can you relate? And things aren’t going to change any time soon. Even with the usually centering meditations I couldn’t shake reservations about my ability to rise to the occasion.

Wrought with angst, I wondered if I could pull up the energy required for the next 14 days.  Doubt + Victim Mentality staring me down from the corner of the ring.

I gave her the stats about how overwhelming my life is at the moment. She counter served with a crisp, clean, pragmatic suggestion on how to handle my joyful-yet-cumbersome reality:

She suggested I get in decision making mode. Like, pronto.

DECIDE either to:

SUBMIT, DEAL OR LEAVE.

Submit to the reality of my current circumstances by not being in a continuous mental fight with what is.
Like….just go with it, dude.

Deal, by making amendments to my current schedule that would lighten the load, ease the pressure + strangle the stress.

OR
Leave my situation all together. Leave school, coaching, etc. Obviously not an option.

I initially decided to DEAL.
I thought that if I canceled a few plans + moved a few appointments I’d secure relief.
I sat on that thought for a few hours. But it gnawed at me. It didn’t feel right.

I reconsidered.

:: Truth is: I chose this schedule. I selected each activity with intention.

:: I have worked for years towards my current reality. I will not fight it.
I am going to acknowledge the light and dark sides and meet them with my full capacity.

:: Screw that! I can totally do this. These are my dreams I am manifesting. I am going to push through the next two weeks with acceptance + gratitude in my heart and then intentionally plan a week of rest on the back end.

In the end I chose SUBMIT. (Or Suck It Up as I like to refer to it)

And I think you should too.

:: Suck it up because the universe is actively giving you what you want + you have the what it takes to handle it.

:: Suck it up because people are counting on you to suit up + show up.

:: Suck it up because sometimes the shit hits the fan–temporarily. And when life gets truly wild, we need to get all warrior on it.

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So get warrior on it, woman.

Whatever “it” is.
For me it’s the school + coaching juggle.
For you, maybe it’s the kids, the 12-hour work days, the in-laws, the last/first 10 lbs or the encroaching holidays.

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Dr. Danielle Dowling

Life Coach

 

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Location: Los Angeles, CA
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Specialties: Dating/Being Single Support, Career, Empowering Women
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