What's the deal with sex addiction groups?

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What's the deal with sex addiction groups?
Navigating through the complicated web of "S" programs

Taken from the SA website, "For the sexaholic, any form of sex with one’s self or with partners other than the spouse is progressively addictive and destructive. We also see that lust is the driving force behind our sexual acting out, and true sobriety includes progressive victory over lust."

SLAA (Los Angeles) - Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous

SLAA is a program that focuses on the relational component of the illness. This could involve multiple relationships, romance, or problematic fantasy about others or relationships as well as compulsive sexual behavior(s). An advantage of this program is that it deals with the relational components of the addiction. A drawback is that it tends to be more disposed towards women in LA.

As they say on their website, "We in S.L.A.A. believe that sex and love addiction is a progressive illness which cannot be cured but which, like many illnesses, can be arrested. It may take several forms - including (but not limited to) a compulsive need for sex, extreme dependency on one person (or many), and/or a chronic preoccupation with romance, intrigue or fantasy. An obsessive/compulsive pattern, either sexual or emotional (or both), exists in which relationships or sexual activities have become increasingly destructive to career, family and sense of self-respect. Sex and love addiction, if left unchecked, always gets worse."

SCA - Sexual Compulsives Anonymous

I'm not as familiar with this program and the next program. In LA, my understanding is that SCA is more widely attended by those in the LGBTQ community. Whereas SA clearly defines sobriety, and does so between a heterosexual couple, SCA is open to the expression of sexuality between couples - whether gay or straight.

Taken from their website, "Our primary purpose is to stay sexually sober and to help others to achieve sexual sobriety. Members are encouraged to develop their own sexual recovery plan, and to define sexual sobriety for themselves. We are not here to repress our God-given sexuality, but to learn how to express it in ways that will not make unreasonable demands on our time and energy, place us in legal jeopordy -- or endanger our mental, physical, or spiritual health."

SRA - Sexual Recovery Anonymous

SRA exists in LA, but is a smaller program. As they express it on their website, "Sobriety is the release from all compulsive and destructive sexual behaviors. We have found through our experience that sobriety includes freedom from masturbation and sex outside a mutually committed relationship."

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