Dating By Height
Shorter women envy tall ones for their long legs and curvy lines, but in the dating world, petite always wins out. The average male in America is just 5'10, which puts Meriwether at nearly half a foot taller than most men. However, it’s not the men who are enforcing this rule that the man must be taller than the woman. According to a recent study, just 4 percent of women would consider dating a man who is shorter than she. So this limits Meriwether’s pool of options to just 5 percent of the population of American men who are over 6’3.
We know that women are staying single longer with the average marriage rate declining over the last 50 years and median marriage age for ladies at an all time high (27 in the U.S. and 30 years old in the U.K.). So what has changed? Birth control has certainly had an effect, enabling women to postponing having a family. However, women have also been stepping into new leadership roles at work. In my work as a dating coach, I’ve observed that the biggest challenge for professional women is being able to turn off those competitive and even sometimes masculine qualities in their personal lives. Even though she can walk the stage with feminine poise, are the skills that made her a powerful athlete hurting her dating life?
On the surface, it seems that intelligence is a virtue that people seek in a long-term partner. Most women however, tend to look for someone with a similar educational background. With a post-graduate degree (particularly from an elite school), Ms. Meriwether’s pool is reduced to a mere 5 percent of online bachelors who share this distinction. Furthermore, a recent University of Chicago study showed that in online dating, men actually avoided women with higher education levels.
Dating Your Race
This is the biggest factor in Meriwether’s singlehood. Let’s say she’s looking to date a black male. The interesting fact is that black men with graduate school experience are 30 percent more likely to marry outside of their race than even black men with college degrees, according to sociology professor and author, Michael Eric Dyson. So let’s say she’s open to dating outside of her ethnicity, as many black women are. In fact, African-American ladies reply to the most messages of any ethnic group according to dating site, OkCupid. However, the sad fact is that they receive the least number of responses to their inquiries. For every message they send, their response rate is just 32 percent in spite of the fact that 62 percent of online daters say that they would be open to dating someone of another ethnicity. So even if she is open to dating across the rainbow, the rainbow might not want to date her.
Miss USA is single, but what does that mean for you? Perhaps if you have been making decisions about who you want to date based on the criteria above, you too, have been limiting your dating pool more significantly than you realize. The wonderful thing about online dating is that it opens up a plethora of dating options, but your preferences, habits and online presentation can make all the difference between feeling frustration and finding love.
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