If you are not experiencing that level of oneness, then one has to consider the factors that may be contributing to a more limited experience of each other, such as lifestyle differences, energetic differences (perhaps one partner is low energy and the other is high energy), depth of emotional commitment and love, and spiritual compatibility.
Breath is the Essence of Life and Love
The next time you are touching your partner or kissing, try adding a this qi gong method of deeper flow of breath:
Inhale into your lower abdomen and allow it to fill like a balloon, then fill through the lungs.
Exhale by contracting the lower abdomen to fully expel the breath slowly.
When you slow and deepen your breath mindfully, oxytocin, the brain chemical that is associated with feeling in love, increases. This heightens your awareness of the energy of your emotions, physical energy and spirit, and also creates a deeper bond with your partner (oxytocin is also known as the bonding chemical). Thus, mindful breath work heightens your awareness of the nuances of touch, feeling and connectivity with partner.
When men engage this style of breathwork, they will be able to maintain erections longer, and achieve what is known as the dry orgasm--where the pleasure of orgasmic release occurs without ejaculation.
Women will find that this style of breathwork will encourage multiple orgasms and a greater opening of the heart center to feel more rooted emotionally with a partner.
Tantric Touches Evoke Greater States of Love
The way you touch your partner can enhance emotional and spiritual bonding through sexuality.
Tantric touches naturally are highly sensuous and start with you first becoming aware of the energy of your own hands, centering yourself, and breathing deeply. From there, form the intention to share your deepest essential energy with your partner with each stroke or caress. Think of it as sharing the gift of your inner self and receiving that gift in return when your partner touches you.
With this intentionality of mindful sharing and receiving deep energy through touches, you will find that your touches will slow and soften. You will find that your hands will naturally be curious and will seek to discover in new ways, new aspects of your partner's body and heart.
Your hands will also communicate your feelings and reveal your heart.
To boost and enhance the energy shared by your hands, you can also use tantric essential oil blends.
I created a lover's blend essential oil blend that is infused with high energy and contains oils such as clove, nutmeg and some of the other classical aphrodisiac essential oils. When applied to the skin, the energy of your own hands combined with the energy of the oils, can deepen the sensual connection with your partner, allowing you both to travel to a place of blissful eroticism.
You can also use a light sprinkle of honey dust on your hands to caresss erogenous zones such as the chest, nape of the neck, back of the knees.
With mindful and relaxed touches focusing on sharing energy, you will find that the level of eroticism will increase greatly and naturally lead you to feeling a greater sense of a body, mind and spirit connection with your love.
Kay Hutchinson is a certified advanced medical qi gong practitioner who works with couples in life coaching in terms of integrating energy methods to enhance sexuality and relationships. To discover more, contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org