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To Kegel or Not to Kegel?

Sex, Self

Check out the benefits (for both men and women) of doing Kegel exercises consistently.

There is so much misinformation out there about Kegels. Some women think they should do their Kegels while sitting down to urinate. Some women think that they should never do them because they have heard Kegels are bad for them. Other women just cannot figure out how to do their Kegels.

Let’s get back to basics. What IS a Kegel?

The Mayo Clinic defines this exercise as one that “…strengthen[s] the pelvic floor muscles, which support the uterus, bladder, and bowel.”

But what are pelvic floor muscles? They’re the muscles that help you stop and start the flow of urine, but even better – those muscles are the ones clench and contract when you orgasm.

How do you figure out where they are? During my in-home pleasure parties, I coach women to think of their Kegel or PC muscles as a CIRCLE 8. One circle of the “8″ goes around the vaginal opening and the other part of the “8″ goes around the anus. Women’s World magazine advises women to “Imagine picking up a marble with your vagina” as the PROPER way to do Kegels.

According to the Mayo Clinic, the better toned your PC muscles (another term for your Kegel muscles) are, the better your orgasm! It can help with incontinence and it can help women who have difficulty having orgasms to have one a little more easily. And get this – even though Kegel exercises don't truly tighten your vagina, they tone and strengthen your vaginal muscles which helps you get more aroused more quickly. Think of the grip you could have during your next sack session!

Studies have shown these exercises help men too. Men who do Kegel exercises regularly can improve the strength of their erections and improve circulation. These exercises are often used to help treat and alleviate erectile dysfunction symptoms and help men who struggle with premature ejaculation to better control their orgasms. And best of all, strong PC muscles also help men have stronger, more intense ejaculations.

If that’s not reason enough to do your Kegels, I don’t know what to tell you. You could even do them together for added fun. The next time you are having sex, alternate doing reps with your partner. Each of you can enjoy the sensations the muscle pulsations give.

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