Is Hot Sex Possible in a Long-Term Monogamous Relationship?


Is Hot Sex Possible in a Long-Term Monogamous Relationship?
After years together, it can get boring in the bedroom. Read more for solutions to spicing it up.

The most important point here is that the couples who do this well do naughty things together in an effort to find out what turns each other on. Because your preferences and willingness to experiment change over time, these couples who have hot sex for years are doing it because they always say YES to trying out things in the bedroom without judging their partners for the suggestions.

Give each other permission to say and do the naughty things you have never tried before. Ladies, just because you like being called a “slut” or other dirty words does in bed not MAKE you those things. And it does not mean your man thinks you are a slut, but I guarantee that he loves the thought that you are a slut for him and his penis (and his only)!


Get comfortable with trying new things – it’s a great way to bring back that fresh, unexplored territory you had back at the beginning of the relationship when you couldn’t keep your hands off each other.

As Gandhi said, you have to be the change you want to see (in your bedroom). Seriously. (My friend and Sex Geek Reid Mihalko is fond of saying, it, too!) Be the change you want to see in your bedroom.)

Awhile back, a customer emailed to say, “Chrystal. You were so right. I just spelled out exactly what I want to my husband of 26 years. He was on board right away and didn’t bat an eyelash. He is so grateful to you that you gave me the extra bit of courage to spell it out for him. He is more than willing to try everything I spelled out. And, some of it I learned about in “50 Shades”. Thank you!”

Remember: communication is SMOKIN HOT!

More about me: I am the owner of an online romance store and have been selling sex toys and lingerie for the last 10 years. I just opened a brand new plus size lingerie store in San Jose called Curvy Girl Lingerie. We focus on plus size lingerie and helping women to get in touch with all of the pleasure your body is capable of!

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Curvy Girl Chrystal Bougon


Chrystal Bougon Sex Toy Expert, Resident Curvy Girl &  Pleasure Coach.

Founder of Award Winning Radio Show Host, "Everyone Wants to Have Better Sex"

Location: San Jose, CA
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