Why do women enjoy kissing so much more than men? A woman's lips are kind of like getting on the expressway: there's a direct path between her lips and her genitalia. I often coach men that spending 20 minutes above her nipples helps her to lubricate and orgasm more easily.
But kissing and making out are surefire ways to get her juices flowing. Unfortunately, they are also some of the first things that seem to disappear over the course of a long-term relationship. That makes me sad.
It keeps you and your partner hot for each other. With that said, here are six tips for being a phenomenal kisser.
1. Get your lips in kissable shape.
Leaning in to kiss someone with severely chapped and peeling lips is not appealing. Neither is garlic breath. Make that mouth appetizing by brushing your teeth and applying some lip balm to keep those smackers kissably soft.
2. Slow it down.
These things can't be rushed. We're talking about passion here, not a "wham, bam, thank you ma'am" approach to sex. Enjoy the sounds of your partner breathing, smile at one another and just be. As you're taking pleasure in one another's company, the makeout session will just happen.
3. Keep it interesting.
A straight peck on the lips would be boring. Ten whole seconds with lips touching and nothing else going on? Boring. Try it slow, try it fast. Do it soft, and then do it hard. Add some tongue, then take it away and kiss close-lipped. You'll soon find you don't really have to think about it; you'll be making out like teenagers again. And that's when the fun starts.
4. Get your hands in on the action.
Maybe you like to start out with arms wrapped up around one another or sweetly cupping each other's face. You don't have to keep your hands in one place, though. Rake your fingernails down your partner's back and shoulders. Run your fingernails through their hair. If things get heated, dare to play a little grab-ass and see where it leads.
5. Kiss other places.
Don't get me wrong: the lips are sexy. But how many of you go wild if your partner kisses that place where your neck and shoulders meet? How about kissing up and down the jawline or just below the ear? So many places feel amazing when kissed. And the best part? Exploring helps you find new places to kiss that get your partner going.
6. Make a more physical connection.
That sounds silly since I've been talking all along about getting physical with one another's faces. However, there's something super-sexy about feeling your partner's breath on your skin, seeing that lustful gaze in their eyes as you reach for them. Take time to notice these things and use them to fuel your friskiness.
Chrystal Bougon is the owner of an online romance store, BlissConnection. Her plus-size lingerie store in San Jose, called Curvy Girl Lingerie, focuses on plus-size lingerie and helping women to get in touch with all of the pleasure their body is capable of.