Forget the rules! There is no right or wrong way to do anything. That’s right, I said it. There are many ways to do each task and each way has its pros and cons. There is one way to wash the dishes so they come out the cleanest. There is another way to wash the dishes in as little time as possible. There is another way to wash the dishes to use the least amount of water. Point is, pick whichever way benefits you in that moment. You don’t always have to choose the same way. This concept also helps you delegate more. Have faith that whatever task you give to your hubby or children will get done - one way or another.
Stop trying to impress people. Whether you want to hear it or not, people are not expecting you to impress them. In fact, most people don’t even notice the efforts you put forth. Why? Because they are lost in their own world, worrying about their own to-do list and focusing on their own challenges. And... if they do notice, chances are they are not going to be thrilled that you impressed them. Why? Because once you set the bar so high, they compare themselves to you, and they start to feel bad about themselves. We need to break the cycle! Allow yourself to be who you are without trying to get everything just right - and you’ll allow others the freedom to do the same.
Here’s the bottom line - we are each much more than the work we do and how well we do it. Being happy with yourself involves knowing exactly who you are and what you stand for, and expressing yourself in alignment with that. If you are doing anything outside of that, you will not be happy with yourself, no matter how good of a job you do.
Ok, so you may be reading this thinking that it makes sense, BUT you know you can’t let go of the reigns. If that’s so, ask yourself: “What does it say about me if I lower my standards? What am I really afraid of?”. When you get to the root of those questions and conquer the underlying fears, you will be a free woman! And, if that’s too much to tackle on your own, I invite you to contact me for a FREE private session to help you learn how to be happy with yourself.