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3 Ways to Love Yourself

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3 Ways to Love Yourself
Sometimes it is easier to love other people than it is to love ourselves.

Do you love yourself? This is not exactly an easy question to answer because at times you may love certain aspects of yourself while despising others. Sometimes we feel loved and cherished by other people and sometimes we may feel like nobody loves us. We can’t base feeling loved on the actions of other people or how we feel from time to time.

We have to learn to be the one to love ourselves unconditionally. When we do, we will be able to accept and give love in a healthier and more fulfilling way throughout our lifetime.

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Here are 3 Ways to Practice Loving Yourself:

Say It:

When is the last time you told yourself “I love you”? Multiple research studies have shown that we can change our habits, beliefs, and brain chemistry over a period of 90 days. We have learned that positive self-talk has a powerful affect on a person’s sense of self worth. When you say, “I love you” to yourself – you are thinking, saying, and hearing that you are loved. This makes a powerful impact on developing your belief system and increasing your self-esteem.

Show It:

When we love someone, we give our time and effort to show it by our actions. We will go to great lengths to protect, value, and care for a loved one. How do you show love to yourself? Are you protecting yourself by establishing healthy boundaries? Do you value yourself by treating yourself with kindness and caring for your body, mind, and spirit? Showing love to yourself involves nurturing your mental and emotional health, spending time embracing your spiritual beliefs, and taking care of yourself physically with a healthy diet and exercise plan that includes a healthy sleep pattern and relaxation time.

Share It:

Loving other people becomes so much more fulfilling for us when we practice loving ourselves because the love we give comes from a genuine place in ourselves. When we have a strong sense of self-esteem and self-worth, we understand the value of embracing our uniqueness and are able to focus on the positive more than the negative. Your attitude and countenance will be an encouragement to other people. When you feel loved yourself, you can easily share that love with others through words and actions.

Today is a great time to start Loving Yourself. Why not make a commitment every day for the next 90 days to say “I love you” to yourself, take daily action to show yourself love, and then share that love with others every day. You may want to journal your “love journey” to be able to reflect on the changes in your life as a result of loving yourself.

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Crystal Hollenbeck

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H3 Counseling focuses on Hope for Relationships, Healing from Painful Experiences, and Harmony for All Seasons of Life. 

Location: Orlando, FL
Credentials: CST, EdD, LMHC, Other
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