For most men it is a stretch of the imagination when they first hear that a sexually active man would choose to forgo an ejaculatory release. Until we learn the benefits it sounds like an immense sacrifice. For the man willing to practice tantric sex the benefits are astounding.
There is tremendous life-force energy contained within semen. Rather than spending all this energy in a fleeting release a man can invest it in an “energetic savings account”, if you will. My whole body feels charged up and awake when sexual energy is peaking so, it’s no wonder that I have to “recharge my batteries” after a sexual “discharge”. When we are young it feels like our sexual releases are drawn from a bottomless well. It is thrilling, captivating and men become quite enamored of the experience. But, we end up depleted over time due to the dissipation of this potent life force.
Through tantric techniques men can spread the energy in the genitals to the whole body and experience rejuvenating “in-gasms” instead of depleting “outward-gasms”. I sometimes call them bodygasms, heartgasms or powergasms depending on what portion of my body is taken over by the sexual force. I attribute the inner circulation of sexual charge to feeling more awake, younger and vital. Volunteer erections have become more frequent. When I do release, the energy is re-directed to another part of my body (e.g. kidneys, heart or head) for regeneration.
One of the primary benefits I experience is that ejaculatory choice essentially removes the sense of having a “finish line” in lovemaking. The “goalpost” of ejaculation dissolves. Rather, I can stay present and grounded for my woman with my attention and intention as a master of my own sexual energy. I don’t “gallop past her”, discharge and then energetically “go away”. I can joyfully savor every moment in devotion and attention. I get to shower in the energy bath of her orgasmic “splash zone”.
My woman knows when we begin a lovemaking session that I won’t release. Mastering my sexual energy allows me to be like stable banks for her flowing river of energy. She no longer needs to feel responsible for my pleasure and can more easily relax and allow herself to follow her own pleasure into peaks, waves and valleys and we can celebrate these orgasmic experiences together.
My woman is the most important person in the world to me when I am close to orgasm. My magnetic charge is built up to its highest level. This is an exceptionally nice time to slow down and connect with her vs. rushing into release and then obligatory rest. We are joining with an intention to inspire each other and share devotion rather than “get each other off”. My undivided loving attention and presence is what I can bring to her.
I have found when I don’t ejaculate for more than two weeks a tide of feelings rise in me. Feelings of vulnerability and love build along with the sexual charge as we enjoy intimate union. My desire is not just physical, but a longing to join in deep connection with my beloved. We often physically place our chests together intending for a circuit of feeling to run though our bodies.