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You’re More in Control Than You Think


One of the lies we tell ourselves when we’re not happy with our weight is that we’re out of control.  So, let me ask you:  What’s your weight right now?

Okay, now tell me why you don’t weigh 50 pounds more than that?

What’s that you say?

Oh, I see. You have an ‘upper limit’. That is, when your weight reaches a certain number, a number you have decided is a line you don’t want to cross, you change your behavior.

In most cases, when the scale reflects your upper limit back to you, you start thinking, feeling and acting in a way that promotes weight loss. Or, at least, stops weight gain.
So here’s my point. 

We’re never really out of control when it comes to what and how much we eat.

When we think a particular thought, that thought creates a feeling. That feeling prompts us to take an action. When our thoughts are aligned with our true desires, we get what we want. We eat with more awareness. We make better choices. We stop eating when we’re satisfied. We stop gaining weight and eventually release our extra weight.

Be open to the idea that you’re always in charge.

In the world of weight loss, you are constantly choosing thoughts that either move you towards overeating, or thoughts that move you towards listening to your body.

All you have to do is draw the line sooner.  Lower your upper limit.

You are in charge.

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission from the author.


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