ProConnect

Bad Back? 6 Tips For Pain-Free Sex

By

Bad Back? 6 Tips For Pain-Free Sex [EXPERT]
Do you suffer from chronic back pain?
Your sex life doesn't have to suffer.

Join wellness coach Connie Merk on our Facebook page Thursday, September 13 at 2 p.m. EST to ask all of your questions about how your back pain affects your love life!

For people with lower back pain, just the thought of sexual activity can induce fear instead of excitement. Sex is supposed to be pleasurable, but when it's associated with physical pain, sexual activity stops. And when that happens, relationships suffer.

More from YourTango: 49 Percent Of People Would Skip Sex For A Year To Have This

The most important advice I can give, not only as someone who is working with back pain patients all the time, but also as someone who suffered from back pain for many years, is to be open with your partner. Communication prevents tension and misunderstandings.

Your partner needs to understand that you haven't lost your interest in him or her, but that you are afraid of aggravating your pain. Your partner needs to feel that you still love him. Otherwise, your condition could jeopardize your relationship. Are You Listening To Your Body?

Openness is key. Talk about what works for you and what doesn't — for both of you. It is not just the position that matters. Having sex is more than a performing act. Lovemaking is about closeness, sharing, understanding, pleasure, fun, and orgasm.

There are plenty of ways people can find sexual fulfillment besides penetration. If you've never experimented with oral sex, sex toys, different positions, now is the time! Get creative and explore. You may find that your sex life suddenly becomes much more interesting and fun.

Here are some more useful tips:

1. Prepare well. For many people, sex is something that happens spontaneously, and thus they believe that any kind of planning makes it less valuable or less enjoyable. But nothing could be further from the truth.

More from YourTango: New Discovery May Lead To Fertility Treatment Breakthrough

When you are dealing with acute or chronic back pain, proper preparation for "the act" may be the only way to enjoy the experience. Nothing kills passion faster then a sudden onset of pain or the constant fear that the wrong movement will render you helpless on the bed. Read more.

More sex advice from YourTango Experts:

Share this with someone you love (or even like a lot)!

Let's make it
FB official
Recent Expert Posts
Faith

3 Ways to Define Who You Want To Be

Sometimes the best way to know who you want to be is to notice how you react in the here and now.

Ask The Experts

Have a dating or relationship question?
Visit Ask YourTango and let our experts and community answer.

Resources
How to find the right pro for you
10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

YourTango Experts can help your business go from good to great.

10 Steps To Improve Your Coaching Business

Take your coaching business from mediocre to great in no time…

Frequently Asked Questions About YourTango Experts

Thinking of joining? Here's all the facts you need to know to make the most of your membership.

Getting Your Guy To Join You In A Therapy Or Coaching Session

So how can your get your strong, self-reliant, superman to talk to an Expert with you?

Therapist/Counselors: Who We Are & What We Do

What exactly does a therapist/counselor do and can they really help?

See more resources>
HOT STUFF!
FROM OUR PARTNERS