Intimacy in 1 Minute — After Porn or Sex Addiction
By Compulsion Solutions. Posted on .
For an intimate connection to grow, it needs attention and nurturing. While this is true for every couple, it is mission critical for couples rekindling intimacy after sex or porn addiction has wreaked havoc on their lives. My wife and I call this condition "sex affliction." Sex affliction occurs when a relationship suffers a profound attack against its safety, vulnerability, intimacy, and sex, caused by one partner's sexual betrayal with porn and/or people. If your relationship has a sexual affliction, you already know how much easier it is to pretend that the injury to your sex, the injury to your "love," doesn't exist.
The reality is however, that stagnation = death, you must move forward. Action is necessary. You must move toward love. We know about this from personal experience. Fortunately, we found our way back to each other and now help other couples do the same. In the course of our journey we needed tools and exercises to help us find our way. Heres is one technique that Michelle invented to deal with my absolute inability to remotely even connect with the concept of INTIMACY.
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I was paralyzed. I wanted nothing to do with sex or intimacy. Sex was a scary dark place. It wasn't warm, loving, beautiful, and the ultimate expression of my love for my amazing wife — it was none of those things and I was scared. In complete and utter frustration with my "fear of intimacy," one night my wife, in a burst of genius made me an offer I couldn't refuse. She asked me for 60 seconds. She asked me if I could give our relationship one minute of my undivided attention and love. I was instantly excited because I knew she was on to something. This is when Date Minute was born. I felt a wall coming down as she gave me this gift, just one minute of our complete attention.
Just one itty-bitty teeny-tiny minute — it’s so easy to do that we officially double and triple dare you to try it. In fact, we challenge you, yes you, (if you are in a committed relationship with another human being we are talking to you) to give undivided, complete, and full love and attention to your significant other. This means looking into each other's eyes, hugging, matching your breaths, dancing, singing . . . just try something to connect the two of you for 60 seconds.
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Date Minute is a very powerful way to connect. Some even call this exercise intense. For the exercise below, all you need to do is connect with your significant other for one minute per day for seven days. This is your DATE MINUTE CHALLENGE. You ready? Read on if you are up to the challenge.
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