If You're Into Porn, Pay Attention To The Jared From Subway Scandal

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You may not have a problem now ...

Jared Fogel, the (now former) Subway spokesman has found himself in a lot of hot water recently. Now, lest you think this is a character assassination, I am not here to point fingers at Jared or anybody else. Any wrongdoing on his part is still alleged at this point, but his situation does leave an opening to discuss some of the more serious ramifications of sex and porn addiction.

Jared's situation is an interesting case study in collateral damage. When these allegations first surfaced Jared seemed to be only on the periphery of the situation. It appeared that the fault might mainly rest with an associate — a man who may or may not have shared images of children with Jared. (Although whether Jared has a affinity for underage girls is still unclear.)

Still, the initial suspicion cast on Jared says a lot about the seriousness of any links to child pornography. As far as the media are concerned, as far as the public is concerned, and as far as the shareholders of his multimillion-dollar contract is concerned, he's guilty. 

Of course, Subway was right to react so viscerally to these allegations. Until everything is sorted out, there cannot be any association with people who may promote or partake of the exploitation of children.  

But this mindset should not live and die at the corporate level. You, the average person, must also distance yourself. Do you know anyone whose own addiction to pornography has strayed into the illegal realm of child porn? If so, this person is not only hurting himself, he could be putting you and your family at risk.

One aspect of porn addiction that many men (possibly Jared from Subway) struggle with is escalation. What may have started out as glimpses at swimsuit models in magazines, can quickly ramp up.

Many porn addicts report that the videos they started with simply don't "do it for them” anymore.  In an effort to feed their compulsion, they have to keep looking for more intense, more violent, or more bizarre porn. And in some cases, pornography featuring younger and younger girls.

This all goes back to the problem we — not simply as addicts, but as a society — have with the objectification of women.

People see women in terms of body parts, as opposed to seeing human beings. We turn women, with all their thoughts, goals, interests, personalities, and feelings into "things" that only exist as a means to a sexual end.

For many years I would hear the phrase "objectification of women," but it just didn't land. I think for many men it is still not landing.

So, What Does Jared Have To Do With Me?

If there is any good to come out of Jared's situation, it may be that it gives men with sex addictions and porn addictions an opportunity to evaluate their own situation. As a public figure, all of the details of his investigation are on display. Perhaps watching his fall from celebrity can help put the seriousness of porn addiction into perspective.

If you're concerned that your compulsive use of porn is taking over your life, interfering with your job, or disrupting your relationships, I urge you to reach out to us today. You're not alone, and we can help. I wish Jared had given me a call before he ended up in this mess.

George Collins, Founder of Compulsion Solutions has spent the last 30 years helping porn/sex addicts to reclaim their lives, self-esteem and relationships. His books are Amazon's #1 Bestsellers in the industry. Click here to get 1-on-1 help from George, or simply get the first chapter of his book, free.

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