6 Benefits Of Quitting Porn

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I was addicted to porn. Are you?

4. You finally stop lying. Living with a porn addiction was like having a double life. I constantly worried about being caught again by my girlfriend. I'd obsess about checking to make sure my history was erased and that my cookies were deleted. No matter how many times I would check, I still felt paranoid that I might have left a bread crumb somewhere. I was constantly worried that if I was caught again my relationship would end. My girlfriend would confront me on things I couldn't explain. She'd always suspect something and I'd get mad at her for not trusting me, which was completely stupid because I wasn't trustworthy.

When you live a lie for long enough, you start to convince yourself of it as well and the more lies you tell, you can't bring yourself to tell the truth about anything. To overcome this, I had to come clean about my addiction and deceptions to my girlfriend. It was incredibly painful but after six months, I can definitely say that it was worth it. I started to tell the truth knowing that my girlfriend could have left me for it but it turned out that all she ever really wanted was honesty.

Once I gave up porn, I didn't have to hide anymore. If I made a mistake, I could admit to it. I didn't have to pretend to be perfect. Now when my girlfriend asks me what I did today, I can tell her the unedited version of what I really did. I no longer have to worry about hurting her, ever again.

5. You understand what it means to be in control. We all know that addictions are not limited to porn or sex. The human mind is an amazing thing and it can turn almost anything into a drug. A&E has a show dedicated to people with addictions from everything from alcohol and heroin to food and shopping.

Once I dropped the porn from my daily routine, my brain still wanted the dopamine it was used to. I understand that it is incredibly easy to fall back into the same habit with a whole new fix. But when you apply what you learned from your addiction to other aspects of your life, it helps you make the best choices.

If there is one thing I've learned from this journey, it's that you're an adult now and if you make bad choices, no one is going to stop you. When you're a kid, your parents limited the time you'd spend watching TV, they'd make you eat your vegetable before dessert and you had to clean your bedroom if you wanted your allowance.

Well, you're all grown up now. Are you going to eat McDonald's every day? Are you going to rack up your credit cards until you're bankrupt? Are you going to drink until you throw up each night? If you do, no one will stop you.

Porn is certainly an example of this. There is a chance that no one will know you're addicted to it. The only one who can stand in your way is you. I learned to think of all the consequences. I learned to ask myself, do I need this much of this? Is this the best decision? How will this affect me tomorrow? I'm not saying that I obsess over it but it's up to me to be my own best friend. That's what an adult does. Keep reading ...

This article was originally published at Compulsion Solutions . Reprinted with permission.
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Sex Addiction and Porn Addiction—We've been there and we know the way out. Compulsion Solutions offers the time-proven approach of George Collins to damaging sex addict and porn addict behaviors, incorporating scientifically proven “mindfulness” techniques that are now being used by the military to treat PTSD and substance abuse. We've been using this approach and these techniques for over 20 years to help people just like you.

 

 

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