6 Benefits Of Quitting Porn

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I was addicted to porn. Are you?

2. You start to like yourself and so do other people. This all ties into the new skills and hobbies you develop. The most amazing writer, David Wong of Cracked.com, said it best, "you can't bullshit yourself into being happy." If by the end up the day, all you've accomplished is a few deposits into the spank bank and you look around to see that your place is still a disaster, what is there to feel happy about? 

Well, that's the problem. Human beings generate happiness from accomplishments, even if it's just small accomplishments. Instead of letting mess in your room accumulate, clean it up. From there, you can carry that effort into other things that make you happy.

Another important reason to kick your addiction is that other people will like you for it. Once you give up your porn addiction, you suddenly become the type of person employers want to hire, the type of friend people want to have and the type of guy that girls want to date. It's only natural. Productive members of society just get more respect and admiration from people because they're just more fun to be around. You learn that you didn't need to win a gold medal, have lots of money or be a movie star for people to like you. You just had to accomplish a few small things to become the person that people wanted to be around. If you just attempt to make an effort it is usually enough to make you feel that much better about yourself.

3. Sex starts to feel real again. As Gary Wilson of yourbrainonporn.com says, "sex is not the same thing as porn." It's the same way that playing "Call of Duty" on Xbox isn't the same thing as going to war in Afghanistan. When I was using, I would look forward to porn but I would dread sex. Sex with my girlfriend felt like a chore. It wasn't her fault. I would avoid sex because I had trained my brain to turn to porn for arousal. So, when it came time to satisfy my girlfriend, it just emphasized the distance I had created between us.

It didn't happen right away but after a short time, I started to desire her touch again. I didn't have to distance myself from intimacy or passion. Porn doesn't have those things. Porn lets you dismiss it when you notice a small imperfection and move on to the next video. It creates a desire for an unrealistic sex life that would never, ever satisfy anyone. It is also something that I'd project onto myself. I'd think I'd have to be built or hung to be desired in such a way.

Leaving it all behind made me start to notice my girlfriend again and love her for who she was. It made me stop objectifying other girls as well. Have you noticed that girls don't want to spend time around you? I sure did. They were put off by my crudeness and I don't blame them. Keep reading ...

This article was originally published at Compulsion Solutions . Reprinted with permission.
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