Visualize your bridge…this safe, beautiful place in nature. Get comfortable as you breathe deeply, connecting with the emotions triggered in the moment.
See your little girl/boy (you when you were young) on the bridge with you.
Create a safe place for your child to feel … unloved … disappointment … fear … anger … resentment … jealousy … lack … not good enough … whatever the feelings, allow them to be embraced by knowing they are there … feel the discomfort.
Hold your child … take care of him/her.
Talk to your partner on the bridge and express all of your feelings. Tell them how you feel and use your them to talk about it … here on the bridge.
Cut the emotional cord and re-connect with your own love. Hold your child and feel the love and support…the protection. Be the love …
Look into your partner’s eyes, or into the eyes of the one you are uncomfortable with, and feel your own open heart … feel your strength and self-worth.
Use each uncomfortable experiece with any relationship to heal your past. When triggered, this emotional ignition acts as a window to your childhood and connects you to the same feelings you felt as a child. Once you acknowledge this truth stay with the feelings that are rising up.....don't leave, just breathe. Say to yourself I am here.
It's not up to anyone to take care of you or fix you. It is exhausting to take care or control others for love. The time has come to take responsibility for your emotional well being. Support, nurcher and love yourself so that no one else takes over.
YOU ARE NOT MY MOTHER OR FATHER....
I AM NOT YOUR MOTHER OR FATHER....