5. Enjoy foreplay. Foreplay is creating a safe place for passion. The open heart is foreplay. Having an open heart will create the space for passion to fill your life and your heart. Foreplay is the preparation for making love all day long as well as making love within, and being in love, but it doesn't happen unless you are open to everything.
How do we get there? For some, books and movies create this yearning. Many people have never experienced it in their lives because they have not taken care of it for themselves. In the beloved relationship, it takes two, both being in the same place or inspiring each other.
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6. Imagine the orange. Sexual passion with the beloved is like a juicy orange. Two hands unfold the orange peel as its juices tempt you to experience the pleasure. When I think about the passionate, sensual experience with my husband Bruce, I see a vision of this juicy orange. I peel the thick, protective skin, exposing a transparent skin that is so light and tender, the juices burst from the seedless flesh. The explosion of the sweet nectar of love tastes clear and full of flavor.
The metaphor of the juicy orange helps illustrate the experience of safe, transparent love and passion intimately shared when the outer skin of protection and the open hearts between us ignite the flow of passion taking us to divine union. Disrespect, Respect And Self-Respect
7. Fall in love, over and over again. Each stage of our self-growth and aging process brings us to new levels of acceptance of personal and physical changes. Every stage is an opportunity to fall in love with ourselves again. Our bodies take us through change and our emotions take us into acceptance. How can we create a comfortable relationship of intimacy? Creating the warmth in our own skin and the safeness as we melt into it is like being embraced in a warm bed by an electric blanket with a range of controls from low to high. We need to take care of the block that stops the energy that warms us and creates comfort. Breathe & Listen—Our Life Response Kit
8. Feel yourself wrapped in your own arms. Only then will you possessthe power to switch on the inner furnace of love. Self-love is fueled by our desire to explode in every cell of our bodies and share it with another. For two people to join together with this fire, without being needy or manipulated, is wonderful. As you feel the intensity of the openness that creates this heavenly place of inner happiness, feel each other’s highest vibration and hear the sounds of peace embraced with trust and loyalty. Nothing else in this moment exists outside the fire of connection and conviction of the heart. From this place, ultimate divine love is inspired and felt in the rapture of the unconditional love. The Lie of Self-Doubt
9. Create a safe place within yourself. My experience is that I cannot be in love when I am shut down. I cannot make love if my heart is closed or if I am thinking about the past or worrying about the future. It is so wonderful to have a partner who holds you in their arms as you share issues and talk about how you’re feeling. Start by creating the safeness in you and inspire the relationship. Commit to the one who is showing up and feel your own love with him or her. Get to know this person intimately because you have taken the time to get to know yourself. Inspire her or him. Be the example of the connection to self-love.They might never have had the safeness or experience to know how to be there. You won’t know how to be there either if you don’t practice your own connection to loving yourself. Be truthful with your feelings and prepare yourself. Fall in love inside yourself. 3 Ways To Attract Your Mate Through Self Love
10. Don't fake it. Once we move into the rhythm of our heartbeat and feel the pleasure of the ultimate experience of union, this fullness will help release any tightness or holding back of the heart. Don't fake it. If you cannot open yourself fully, don't pretend. Pretending only creates an experience that is not truthful. We have all been hurt and we all have fears, but a healthy, intimate union can continue to be healthy as long as each person takes care of their suppressed emotions. Supporting one another is not taking care of each other or fixing. Support is holding the space so that the safe passage through issues can result in an open, loving heart.
11. Be brave. Everyone is searching for love and many move from person to person because the sexual ignition dies and they blame the other one when issues come up. The experience of sexual ignition brings up the life force, which will move us into our heart to feel. If we are not prepared to go to our suppressed emotions, the experience can become overwhelming and we may want to run and hide. Be brave and stay to feel. You are worthy of love! The Way to True Love is Through Self Love
12. Be mindful of neediness. Many people do not know about love until they are making love. In this place, they feel their heart. This can create a need to find it wherever they can because it feels good. Many men and women who are needy for love, take it in whatever way it's given to them. In one moment of ecstasy, they feel their open heart and it feeds them and becomes an addiction.
Needy love and sex can become an addiction because it may be the only place where we feel our passion or openness. Once you create the openness, safeness and passion that your life force can create, your sexuality and passion can always run through you. This energy is your fire as well as your passion for life that can keep you connected to your highest vibration. The power of your life force can give you strength and self-worth to overcome anything. Sex Video: How To Tell Your Partner About Your Sexual Fantasies
13. Have faith. How we live in love is the love we know for ourselves. We are meant to have this every day of our life, not just a drop, or a notion of it. Love is vast and there is enough for all of us, not just for the chosen few. We are the ones who choose. We are the ones who have the power to choose it for ourselves, attract it and live in love with another. I am told by some that it is rare. This is often the perception because people aren’t aware. As more couples emerge into the beloved love to inspire the world, two by two, and inspire our children about healthy love, we can all become dancers with each other. Step by step, we will suddenly be a chorus line with beautiful music, and the stage of our own world will expand with others. 4 Steps To Turn Your Date Into A Loving Relationship
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When you look at your beloved and know that you feel him in and around you, even when there is distance, he or she is in your heart, and under your skin. Even if you close your eyes, you know that he or she is there. You can feel the caress of their essence touching every cell of your being with gentle soft love. Regardless of where you are in a day, you can stop and feel that commitment and safeness of each other. Your loneliness doesn’t exist anymore because you have already realized you are never alone. This place that exists within you is also in your beloved. When the time comes when you can physically touch one another, the joy catches fire in your heart and the gentleness takes you home inside you.