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THE DANCE....inspired by the song by Garth Brooks


Look at every relationship as a soul mate. The pain is as important as the love for evolution.

I believe that the beloved is the experience of a safe rhythm of understanding and unconditional love between two hearts. In this place there is no judgment or expectations. The intention of love and peace, woven with respect creates a safe place for each other to become all that they are.

I feel that my significant relationships have been the reflection of who I was at the time. My daily practice and connection with my emotional body strengthened my self-worth and self-love, allowing me to experience my life and relationships with an open and loving heart.
Every type of relationship guides me to the truth about my own heart or the lies that continue to attract the same experiences over and over again so that I can find another way to live and love.

Everyone is searching for or dreaming of their perfect partner….even while in relationship. Honor yourself and others by taking responsibility for the love and lack of love that we give or receive.

I believe that two willing people, ignited in their own love can experience the dance of past pain and the dance of present joy together.
One of us may stop dancing for a short time - to take a breath or two - - patiently
Waiting for the song of love to fuel the moment with safe arms and beating hearts.

The Dance by Garth Brooks is such a powerful song that supported me when my relationships ended and my new direction with my new self began. I can now look back on each relationship with an open heart.
These are the words to the song “The Dance”. Garth Brooks shares an amazing message. 

Looking back, on the memory of, the dance we shared neath the stars above.
For a moment, all the world was right.
How could I have known that you would ever say goodbye.
And am glad I didn’t know, the way it all would end, the way it all would go.
Our lives, are better left to dance.
I could have missed the pain, but I would have missed The Dance.

Holding you, I held everything, for in a moment wasn’t I the King.
If I had only known, how the King would fall, and who could say, you know, I might have changed at all.
And I am glad, I didn’t know the way it all would end, the way it all would go.
Our lives, are better left to dance.
I could have missed the pain, but I would have missed the dance.
Yes my life, is better left to dance.
I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss The Dance.

Each past relationship still lived in me because I had not forgiven them, or could not let go of the memories of the pain. This attachment to them shut my heart as I held on to anger, resentment or hurt…the thought of them would close my heart.

Once I learned to forgive and let go, I had more space for love because this love I had with this man was my own love….not his. I could then FEEL more of my heart and remember the joy of the relationship.

Try to look at each relationship as a soul-mate connection…each for the evolution of your soul. Yes you could have missed the pain but you would have missed THE DANCE.  Click on the link highlighted in pink to hear the song!