Valentines Day is coming. Are you feeling compelled to move forward with a relationship, or ask someone out on a date and yet no matter how hard you try, you can’t pull the trigger and act on your desires?
On one hand your mind badgers you to call her or contact him and on the other, it harasses you mercilessly for being lily-livered and a loser. And now here you are, approaching another Valentine’s Day hoping against hope that this year will be different.
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Believe it or not, even in tug of wars like this, your intuition is telling you to have courage and go for it, in spite of your fears and insecurities. Inspired action especially when you are unsure is very powerful magic.
So what’s the problem? Your ego, that character I call your Goblin, is directing the action on your inner stage. In my best selling book, The Map: Finding the Magic and Meaning in the Story of Your Life I clearly lay out the coordinates for you so that you can regain control from your Goblin.
For now, it is important to remember that self sabotage is at its heart self protection and as you deconstruct your current situation, be gentle and have compassion for yourself.
Sometimes the people around you aren’t very supportive and may be giving you a whole list of reasons why you should stay the same. I know where they are coming from.
When I started to change my life by meeting my Goblin, embracing it, warts and all, and enlisting it to actually work for my benefit, there was a ripple effect felt throughout my whole life.
Like it or not, my changes meant other people had to change....or they were not part of my life anymore. No wonder people discourage you from moving forward. It is not that your friends and family are consciously holding you back. It is just unconscious resistance to the call to grow up, let go, move on and have life.
So how does this all relate to moving forward toward love?
If you want to find a partner who reflects and respects your meaning and purpose, you need to go beyond the limits of how you’ve been conditioned to see the world and yourself. The people in your world are the ones who mirror back to you the needs of your shadowy inner self.
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When you get hurt feelings, the pain is acutely your own and as much as you would like to blame that so-and-so who did you wrong, if you want to find a life partner, you need to find the courage to explore that inner emotional landscape, sweep away the cobwebs of ancient wounds and bring all of yourself into the light.
All around you and through you, Divine energy flows. The manifesting secret I learned since my own steps toward sobriety many years ago was this: You cannot interpret, feel or interact with Divine Energy with your intellect. Pause and think about that.