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Determined to change your luck this Valentine's Day? Here's how to find your way to Your Soul Mate.

Valentines Day is coming.  Are you feeling compelled to move forward with a relationship, or ask someone out on a date and yet no matter how hard you try, you can’t pull the trigger and act on your desires?

On one hand your mind badgers you to call her or contact him and on the other, it harasses you mercilessly for being lily-livered and a loser.  And now here you are, approaching another Valentine’s Day hoping against hope that this year will be different.

Believe it or not, even in tug of wars like this, your intuition is telling you to have courage and go for it, in spite of your fears and insecurities.  Inspired action especially when you are unsure is very powerful magic.

So what’s the problem?   Your ego, that character I call your Goblin, is directing the action on your inner stage.  In my best selling book, The Map: Finding the Magic and Meaning in the Story of Your Life I clearly lay out the coordinates for you so that you can regain control from your Goblin.

For now, it is important to remember that self sabotage is at its heart self protection and as you deconstruct your current situation, be gentle and have compassion for yourself.

Sometimes the people around you aren’t very supportive and may be giving you a whole list of reasons why you should stay the same.  I know where they are coming from.  

When I started to change my life by meeting my Goblin, embracing it, warts and all, and enlisting it to actually work for my benefit, there was a ripple effect felt throughout my whole life.

Like it or not, my changes meant other people had to change....or they were not part of my life anymore.  No wonder people discourage you from moving forward.  It is not that your friends and family are consciously holding you back.   It is just unconscious resistance to the call to grow up, let go, move on and have life.

So how does this all relate to moving forward toward love?

If you want to find a partner who reflects and respects your meaning and purpose, you need to go beyond the limits of how you’ve been conditioned to see the world and yourself.  The people in your world are the ones who mirror back to you the needs of your shadowy inner self. 

When you get hurt feelings, the pain is acutely your own and as much as you would like to blame that so-and-so who did you wrong, if you want to find a life partner, you need to find the courage to explore that inner emotional landscape, sweep away the cobwebs of ancient wounds and bring all of yourself into the light.

All around you and through you, Divine energy flows.  The manifesting secret I learned since my own steps toward sobriety many years ago was this:  You cannot interpret, feel or interact with Divine Energy with your intellect.  Pause and think about that.

With the right spiritual tools I can help you have a strong connection with your intuitive senses.  There is an exercise at the end of this article to help you access the physical experience of inner guidance you were born with the right to experience.

Don't get me wrong, I love giving readings just about more than anything else and teaching these universal truths rocks, but ultimately you will only see a shadow of Divine presence, power and perspective until you connect up to Spirit for yourself.

My intuition has led me on quite a journey in the last few years.  Marc and I have moved twice and now I am being challenged again to keep the birth of Master Intuitive Coach® Institute in the light and love of my intuitive wisdom and out of the hands of my Goblin who always checks to see if there is any ground it can reclaim. Oy!

I have found that courage has its own sweet reward.  Each brave decision I have made to embrace the parts of me who are not so pretty and admirable and to stop fearing the Goblin has resulted in blessing upon blessing.

Though I have times when I am afraid and uncertain, I have disciplined myself to go to the Map, go to the Map, go to the Map.   Checking in regularly with my route on my Inner Highway always empowers me to grow, heal, and strengthen my connection with Spirit.

Even when, no especially when things don’t make sense in the outer world it is always important to check inside, consult your Map to make sure you are still on route to your heart’s desire.

In matters of the heart, it is critical you be plugged in to your guidance.  The Divine has a glorious sense of humor and you will be surprised by love when it comes a calling.  If you are determined to change your luck in love this Valentine’s Day, call in the inner troops and make room for Love in the deepest part of you.

Here is an exercise to help you tune into your inner senses.  Each time you practice these processes you make it easier and easier to plug into your wisdom when you need it most.  Everytime you use your inner senses, inner sight, inner smelling, inner hearing, you strengthen your imagination.  Your imagination holds the reins of your intuition.

EXERCISE:

Find a comfortable place to sit and with feet flat on the floor, close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths.  With each breath feel as if gravity gets stronger and stronger.  Imagine that the earth itself is a magnet pulling you toward itself.

When you are feeling relaxed and centered, think of an apple.  Notice what form it takes.  What does the idea of an apple look like to you?  Do you see a black and white line sketch?  Do you see the word A-P-P-L-E?  Do you see a leaf on the stem?  Don’t pressure yourself, just notice what you notice.

Now, imagine a beautiful juicy Red Delicious,  Imagine touching it, smelling it.  Now, change it into a Granny Smith.  See the green skin.  Feel the firmness of the flesh. Good.  Now see it cut in half.

For extra credit, imagine the taste and smell.  See the moisture on the freshly sliced piece.   Now, imagine getting a zip lock baggie and put the apple into the baggie.  Zip it.

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