The Goblin likes you paralyzed...you are easier to keep an eye on.
In matters of the heart, comparisons are wicked. From the earliest years of innocent flirtations all the way through relationships, breakups and transitions, each event and experience imprints itself on your inner emotional landscape.
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Once I realized the Goblin was only trying to protect me by reminding me of its own identity, pointing out my core issues over and over, I couldn't deny them anymore. That bit of wisdom changed my life and when I stopped denying that part of myself and surrendered to what was, I was able to finally get out of denial about my issues and began to heal.
Soon I met Marc and this year we are celebrating our 10th Valentine’s Day together. I see now that the faster I catch myself slipping into comparing, the better I can rebound energetically and get refocused on what it is that I am currently committed to seeing through.
If you are ok being single, that is your business. If you feel pressured about being single at Valentine’s Day, here is an exercise to see if your Goblin is stirring things up for you right now.
Sit comfortably with your eyes closed. Breathe deeply and focus on the movement of your chest and belly as you relax. Allow yourself to settle into a peaceful spot in your imagination. A favorite vacation spot or childhood home may be a good place to start.
As you experience being in this place alone, ask yourself internally, “What do I notice about being alone here?” Sit quietly and listen. See if you are aware of any sounds? Is there a breeze blowing? What time of day is it?
Next, ask yourself this, “What value is there in being alone?” Breathe and listen. Lastly, ask one more question: “What is the easiest way for me to remember to come to this inner haven when I am tempted to feel less than others?”
The secret to relaxing enough to attract true love is to accept that you are always going to be able to find someone who is, has or does something better than you. When you feel less than or lacking when it comes to finding love, simply catching yourself thinking in that way is a huge step in the right direction.
Love is found from a sense of self worth and wholeness. Once you see yourself complete as you are, love comes to find its reflection as if by magic. Seek Spirit to help you return to your own heart...where all the answers lie.
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