I didn't know it then, but now I know for sure that this type of self talk is a form of self-hypnosis that surely and steadily convinces you that you are unlovable, unattached to Spirit and on your own. Before you add, "I'll never learn to control my thoughts" to your negative thinking, let me give you some good news.
Your self esteem is never beyond repair. Linked brilliantly with your thinking, Spirit makes it possible to adjust your self concept by adjusting your thinking. Your goal is to reconnect to your intuition and healthy self esteem is crucial to hearing from your guidance. Why is this critical? You do want to keep buying shoes, don't you? Do All Women Have Body Image Issues?
Remember, the Divine gave you the key to your success and when you're fully connected to the source within, you'll cast your net into the world around you, gather the synchronicities created to support you and move forward on your highest path.
On the other hand, when you don't approve of yourself, your Goblin, the still wounded part of your ego, takes over and harasses you mercilessly for your lack of self control. Low self-esteem keeps you separated from the support you need and disconnected from your intuitive genius. To rebuild self esteem and see yourself as valued and approved of—even and especially with last season's foot wear—it is a simple matter of choice. You need to take dead aim at your stinking thinking (Thanks Zig Ziglar) and with a take no prisoners attitude, create a new mindset. The 'Think Positive!' Experiment
Over all the years and the thousands of people I have spoken to, most everyone has no trouble listing their faults, failings and flaws. Most are so used to negativity that when I ask them to tell me their strengths, the phone goes silent. Now remember, healthy self-esteem isn't about thinking you're perfect—because nobody is—or babbling mindless affirmations about how worthy you are of love, acceptance and happiness. To get comfortable in your skin, you don't have to prove anything to anyone. You simply need to make choice after choice with a cool head and in the light of Spiritual Truth of which thoughts you want to think.
Self love and self approval bring immeasurable rewards to your life...even those fabulous shoes in the window if your intuition gives you the green light. Shopping will always delight you. However, when you are free to say, "No, maybe next pair" to yourself, you will cultivate far more than a momentary pleasure. Ready To Date Again? Take This Self Love Quiz First!
1. Do a Check Up From the Neck Up: Write a list of all of your accomplishments and proud achievements. Then, write a list of your personal strengths and talents. Now ask two people—preferably friends, family or close business colleagues—to create the same two lists. Seeing yourself in the eyes of people who care for you is exquisitely valuable. As you compare your self evaluation to theirs, breathe deeply and purpose to open your heart to their view.