I recently met a successful surgeon who bragged that she had her UPS guy on speed dial to take advantage of the free return service offered by a well known online shoe store. The problem? This same surgeon is tens of thousands of dollars in debt, still paying off her med school loans and wanting help from me to understand her depression, stress and compulsive shopping. My doctor colleague needs to get a hold of her self esteem issues that lie underneath her shopping addiction before she will ever experience the freedom she craves. Money issues are only a symptom of an imbalanced life.
In the Wealth Energetix™ module of Master Intuitive Coach® Institute training, I teach that in order to manifest in the outer world, your inner world must be in alignment with what you choose to experience.
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Some addictions fly under the radar. According to about.com, "about 6% of the U.S. population is thought to have a shopping addiction. As with all addictions, shopping becomes the person's main way of coping with stress, to the point where they continue to shop excessively even when it is clearly having a negative impact on other areas of their life. As with other addictions, finances and relationships are damaged, yet the shopping addict feels unable to stop or even control their spending." Secretly Spending? Know This. [VIDEO]
As you know, I make no secret of my addictions and recovery. I floundered badly in my early years with lots of addictive patterns and it is only through the grace of God and the 12 steps that I found my way. I don't care how or what the authorities say about "real" addictions vs. "behavioral" addictions. The bottom line is, if your life is being controlled by a habit...you have a God-shaped hole inside of you that you are trying to fill with shopping or if you are like me, men, alcohol, drugs and food too. 30% Of Couples Engage In Financial Infidelity
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I know it hurts. I spent years trying to not hurt. Keeping myself numb kept me spinning out of control. Dizzy and falling apart, I finally surrendered in 1986, got myself sober with the help of other folks in recovery in countless church basements and rebuilt my life. What I discovered is that my thoughts were not only at fault (pesky rascals) but also completely fixable!!
Did you know that scientists have found a way to measure thought. I'm not sure how, but they say that you have at least 50,000 thoughts each day. Before I had my own awakening, most of my thoughts sounded like this: "I don't have what it takes"..."No one loves me"..."I can't get anything right"..."I'll never be good enough"..."Success is for everyone but me." "Am I Ugly?"—A Heart Breaking Video Makes News