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I Made Every Possible Dating Mistake And Still Got Married


How I became a dating expert after years of having a lack-luster love life.

Three years ago, I couldn't find a man for the life of me. I made every mistake under the sun in the dating world and with men. I complained about my man issues to my friends. I tried to use my masculine energy to "get" a man. I broke up with them over the slightest issue. My expectations were so high, men left me for a woman they could please. I thought men held all of the cards, and I was the big victim. I dated multiple people and couldn't keep them all straight. One time, I even I tried to be cool and slept with a man on the first date. Boy, did that back fire. I was cheated on, stalked, stood up and more.

Today, I am so grateful for everything I experienced and learned, even though it stung badly at the time. I can proudly say that I have become an expert in the world of love, men, dating and relationships. Yes, me. I studied. I researched. I read. I did exercise after exercise and attended class after class. Because I went through the ringer and back through that torturous journey, I thoroughly enjoy teaching singles how to meet someone great for them; enjoy the journey, keep things simple and build the muscle to be successful for the long run. It's a blast and keeps me present and humbled to the ups and downs that I had to go through to get to the other side. On March 20, 2014, I became an International Best Selling co-author of the book Sexy Secrets to a Juicy Love Life, and I am the proud author of Loveable: 21 Practices for Being in a Loving & Fulfilling Relationship. Serveral years ago, none of his was possible. My point is that if you are struggling or challenged in this area, it's okay. I have been there, and you can learn it.

I believe that the key to a lasting and loving relationship is three fold — how to love someone else, how to be loved and how to love and honor yourself. It seems hard, but it can be quite simple if you can keep your head down, practice, learn, be a student and bring a pure willingness to go the distance.

This past May, I married the love of my life. I never thought I would say those two special words to someone ("I do"). Especially after eight long years of serial dating. I am here to say that if I can do it, you can do it. The question that you must ask yourself is, "Do you have the tenacity and drive to achieve success?" I bet you do.

Suzanne Muller is a successful Dating & Love Life Coach with a special knack for helping people determine why they cannot attract love and break through to the other side. She uncovered the formula for understanding how to be incredibly loveable and desired beyond her wildest dreams, and now it's all yours. If you are a smart woman who craves this knowledge, grab her book, Loveable or visit her website.

This article was originally published at Reprinted with permission from the author.

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