4 Reasons You Should Choose Quality Over Quantity When Dating


Dating: 4 Essential Dating Tips: Quality Over Quantity
Because no one wants to spend Saturday night with a dud.

Have you ever been on a date and realized within the first 30 minutes that this person wasn't for you? Maybe you knew in the first 10 minutes and still had to go through the motions all evening. Are you tired of wasting your time, money and energy going out with people that are not a good fit for you? If you are tired of coffee dates that don't go anywhere or long dinners you want to end early, move to dating from quality rather than quantity and stop wasting your precious time using the following 4 tips. 

1. Know What You Want
How can you tell if a person has good potential or not? Have a solid understanding of the kind of person who will fulfill you. Make a list, not of qualities, but of fundamentals or conditions. If a person doesn't meet most of these conditions, don't bother going out. Don't waiver, even if he or she is really cute, Stick to your guns, since trying to change someone stinks and won't work anyway.

2. Get The Facts Before You Go Out
I don't think people ask enough questions before they go on the first date. Ask good questions ahead of time. How can you tell if a person is potentially a match? Don't be afraid to discuss important topics before going on a date. Talk about lifestyle, health, spirituality, intentions, and whether the person wants kids or not. Isn't it better to know up front early on rather than later? Don't worry — there will still be plenty more to learn about this person and more fun to have if he or she is indeed someone you could be in a relationship with. My point is, don't be afraid to talk about things you really care about even before the first date. Yes, before the first date!

3. Trust Your Instincts
If you have a bad feeling about a person or if you are just plain not excited about him or her, call to cancel. Don't waste your time, energy and hard-earned money going out on a date with that person. Believe me, it honors you and them. Besides, there is nothing worse than going out with someone and beating yourself up half way through dinner because you knew it in your heart of hearts that this date would be a waste of time. Right?

4. Have Faith In Yourself
If you are not good at trusting your instincts and heart, or if you tend to doubt yourself, learn this skill. Learn it fast! It can save you lots of time, heartache, money, and grief. It can also help you see the love of your life when he or she arrives.

Are you serious about jumping out of the dating market with a fantastic partner? What would your dating life be like if you only dated people who met your foundation requirements? Try these tips for only dating quality matches and see how the process can become easier, smoother and more enjoyable.

Suzanne Muller is a global Dating & Love Life Coach that helps smart singles figure out the formula to having a tender, fun and healthy relationship. She is the author of Loveable: 21 Practices For Being In A Loving & Fulfilling Relationship. If you are a successful professional in every area of life, but dating and love, and you have a hunger to have a phenomenal love life then connect with her here.

This article was originally published at Happy Living Forever. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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Suzanne Muller is the author of Loveable - 21 Practices for Being in a Loving & Fulfilling Relationship and a co-author for the international bestselling book, Sexy Secrets to a Juicy Love Life. She's a well-known global Dating & Love Life Coach with tons of successful love stories. If you are a smart woman who is hungry to learn how to escape the chaotic dating scene and understand how to receive love, love a man fully while loving and honoring yourself, then connect wtih her here.

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