Angela actually said she wanted a man to dominate her. Now there’s a challenge! From what I saw last night when she was flirting with her three potential dates and then during her actual date, she doesn’t want to give up a moment of control. Angela thrives on feeling better than a man.
The one man who could have dominated her turned her off! Face it – Angela has a conflict between her desire and what will work for her in a relationship. She has created a scenario that will definitely keep her single and in total control – her underlying and primary desire.
A Masculine Man with a Balanced Feminine Side
There is another option. Be open to a masculine man who has balanced feminine side as well. This renaissance guy will be supportive and thoughtful. He might dash out to the store for you or help with domestic chores. He’s still a strong virile man, but not an alpha male. You’ll still need to be careful about bruising his masculine ego, but you won’t feel the need to compete with him. This can be a better match for the alpha female – one that offers a balance of Yin and Yang for a healthy, satisfying, non-competitive relationship.
The Yin Yang Dating Principle and Ball Room Dancing
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Here’s an analogy that is simple and very helpful for clients who work with me as their dating coach. This applies mostly to the initial dating period – power in relationship tends to balance out a bit. Think of ball room dancing. How many leaders are there in ballroom dancing? Just one. How many followers? Just one again. If there area two leaders, there is a power struggle and you wont’ dance well together. On the other hand, two followers wont’ get any where. You need one of each to float around the room like dancing with the stars.
Does this make you a door mat? No! It just makes you a smart woman who understands how to work your way around a masculine man. You know the best way to appeal to his masculine side is with your feminine charm. Men choose women who makes them feel good about themselves. That’s exactly what feminine charm does – it heightens his masculinity!
As a smart business woman and alpha personality, you want to use every trick in the book to have your way right? Then don’t mess with mother nature. Follow in her foot steps and let your inner Goddess and feminine charm capture his attention so he wants to win your heart.
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