Have you ever said "no" to any of these questions?
- Can I have your number or email?
- Would you like to meet me for a drink? or
- Would you like to dance?
I have. I'm happily married now, but I'll never forget a time when I was 24, I was with my friend Nancy and her boyfriend Scott playing pool and this nice guy started talking to me and joined our game. As we were leaving he asked for my number.
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I didn't know what to do and this had never happened to me before. Should I give him the number of not? My friends said not to and I felt torn. I left without divulging my digits.
To this day I wonder about him. We had similar interests, and he was easy to talk to. He seemed like a nice guy, and he was a carpenter so he could build and fix things.
It was a crossroads in my life. There was an ember ready to build into a potentially nice fire, and I snuffed it out by negative thinking and saying "no".
What about when you say "no" to yourself? That counts too.
- I hate those singles dances;
- I won't date a man who is going bald;
- Men who are more than three years older than me are out;
- He's nice but not my type; and
- Blind dates just aren't my thing.
When you say "yes," you allow the Universe to help you meet your match by using positive thinking. When you meet lots of men, the right man has a chance to cross your path. When you say "yes" to situations and men, you are a pleasure to be with, live more fully and believe that all your efforts will pay off.
And it will! It worked for me. It's worked for millions of women.
Just for today, catch yourself when you want to say "no." Say "yes" at least once when you want to say "no." You can become a "yes" person and you can find the love you want.
People find love everyday. Say "yes" and you could be next!
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