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By Coach Ronnie Ann Ryan. Posted on Sep 5th 2012.

Why you should relax despite all of dating's unknowns ...

When you haven't dated for some time, the idea of getting back out there can feel overwhelming. Whether you're divorced, widowed or single, so many questions plague your mind:

Where do you go to meet men? What do you write in an online dating profile? Which online dating site should you try? How safe will you be? What if the men aren't honest? What if you don't like the men on the site? What if the men don't like you?

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With so many unanswered questions, how do you get started? The best dating advice I can give is to take the pressure off yourself and the dating process. Does that sound too simple?

It might, but it can completely change your experience and improve your odds of success. Here's how:

1. When you take the pressure off, you can focus on getting comfortable with the process. You can start to think of dating as just meeting new people. You probably know how to meet new people, right? You might meet people at work, at a friend's party, on the golf course, at your children's school or at church. You actually meet new people all the time. 7 Tips For Enjoying Your First Vacation Together

When you think about meeting men like they are just new people, you can relax and be yourself. This is a winning strategy because when you are relaxed, you appear more confident and that naturally makes you more attractive. When you are comfortable, the men will feel that way as well.

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