I've read Lori's book and she is actually not encouraging women to settle. Instead, she suggests women recognize the qualities of a good partner and consider a wider range of options. She also bares her soul regarding the false assumptions that sadly kept her single. From discounting men because she had plenty of time to feeling most men weren't good enough, Lori kept herself single for two and a half decades.She finally got serious, hired a dating coach and fell in love. (I love a happy ending!)
So what is the right time to get married for a woman? When she finds the right man! The best thing you can do when looking for love is to honor a great match when you are lucky to have connected with one. According to the US census, the average age a woman gets hitched is 26 and 28 for men (in 2012). Whether you are younger or older is not what matters — that is just statistical data.
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What does matter regarding your decision to marry and the timing? Here's a good check list to reflect on:
- Do you love each other?
- Do you respect each other?
- Do you have fun together?
- Does he treat you well?
- Do you have similar values?
- Do want the same things out of life?
- Are you compatible?
These questions are a great start for determining if you have found the romantic partner you want to spend your life with. Of course, as a single woman you may have other considerations as well.
My advice as a dating coach is not to toss a good man aside simply because of timing. When you find the right guy who makes your heart melt, treats you well and is there for you, go for it!
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