In Praise Of Wolf Whistles & Why Women Like Them

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When a man whistles at you, do you feel good or like a sex object? Here's how to see it positively

When a man whistles at you, how does that make you feel? According to the Daily Mail, an old-fashioned wolf whistle encourages 38 percent of women to stick to their diets, and 54 percent of those asked admitted they loved being catacalled. Clearly many women think it's flattering.

Some of the clients I coach tell me this type of thing is disrespectful and it makes them very angry. I know what they mean. At 40, I was still single and had no prospects of finding love. But then I underwent a huge transformation that changed my mindset and my love life for good.

 

I had dated in high school and college, but was heartbroken by my college boyfriend. For the next 18 years I barely dated at all. I had two three-month relationships and that was basically it.

Once I hit 40, I realized I had to get serious if I wanted to find love. For me that meant looking at what I was doing that contributed to my single status, which turned out to be quite a bit. I had to break down walls I didn't even know I had put up to keep myself safe, but had also kept me single. This is the kind of dating advice I share with my clients today.

My "dating awakening" allowed me to finally get out there and meet men. I did something at least once a week to mingle. Consciously interacting with more men opened my eyes to many things I hadn't thought about before. One of those things was my feminine charm and another was wolf whistles.

Before my awakening, I was insulted by men who whistled. My thoughts included:

  •  How could he treat me that way?
  • I'm not a piece of meat!
  • How sexist!
  • That is so rude!
  • Who does he think he is anyway?

As I softened my viewpoint, trying to understand and interact with more men, I came to realize a wolf whistle was actually a good thing. I used to consider it obnoxious and demeaning, but I realized it meant a man found me attractive. I hadn't looked at myself this way in years. Suddenly, a man's whistle became a compliment. "Hey, that guy thinks I'm attractive!" is what would come into my head when I heard that occasional whistle. Keep reading ...

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This article was originally published at It's Never Too Late for Love . Reprinted with permission.
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Coach Ronnie Ann Ryan

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The Dating Coach for Women Over 40

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