Is Dating Someone New The Best Way To Get Over An Ex?

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Weigh the pros and cons before you decide.

3. You won't have time to grieve. The end of a relationship is a loss that needs to be acknowledged. If you act like it's no big deal, you risk of burying your feelings which is never a good thing. You'll feel so much better if you go through the stages of grief and let it go, rather than stuffing it down and pretending it doesn't matter. I realize it isn't fun, but there's really only one way through - to feel the grief before moving on.

4. You won't have time to rebuild confidence. When meeting new men, you want to feel really good about yourself. If you are fresh out of a breakup, this isn't possible. Healing takes time but it also pays off. For a solid recovery, I recommend my clients take steps to rebuild confidence which can include any of the following: pampering, exercising or hiring a personal trainer, changing your hairstyle or having a makeover and working with an image consultant or shopping for some new clothing.

This way, when you're ready to meet new singles, you will feel confident — a quality that both genders seek. After all, don't you want to be at your very best to attract the best possible partner?

5. You won't gain strength that comes from being on your own. Some women are perfectly fine on their own. Others dislike being without a man for even a week. Yet, knowing you can survive solo is vitally important to your well-being.

Granted, it's more fun to have a constant companion, but you don't want to be in a relationship with just anyone to avoid being alone. The right man for you will be supportive, loving, make you laugh and have the same relationship agenda that you do ... and you are more likely to find a man like that when you are recovered from your breakup.

Splitting up is never fun. The end of a relationship brings up pain, anger, resentment and … the potential to learn. If your tendency is to jump into a new relationship as quickly as possible, I suggest you try a new approach. Allow yourself time to heal and regain confidence so you can connect at the heart level with the right man for you.

For more dating advice from Ronnie, download her book 5 Big Turnoffs That Drive Men Away.

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Coach Ronnie Ann Ryan

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