Why Some Women Rock At Online Dating


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2. Share your interests. Start your profile by sharing your interests and hobbies rather than talking about work or children. If you have some activities you know men like too, put them first to catch a man's attention. Amy points out it was better to leave her black belt in aikido out completely since it did prompt a few guys to want to fight with her!

3. Don't brag about your career. Even if your career is your life, it's not your most attractive quality. You want to appeal to men on a more personal level, demonstrating the enjoyment you'll be bringing to his life (as you would want from him right?).


A woman who is all business may be successful but won't seem like much fun. And worse, you don't want to bring out a sense of competition in a man — that is the most anti-romantic thing you can do! I am not suggesting you have to dumb down or not be yourself, this is only for the profile. You just don't want to seem like all work and no play.

4. Respond to emails promptly. Responding to a man’s email within 24 hours works best. If you let it go for a few days, he might have moved on to others forgetting you. While you don't need to get back to him within minutes, and I'm not suggesting that you seem desperate, but you do want to strike while the "iron is hot" and you are too. Amy also recommends responding to instant messages from men if you are both online at the same time.

Not everything from Amy's analysis points to the most effective actions for online dating — just what women did most frequently. Here are a few more savvy tips that her data analysis did not show.

5. Don't create a huge list. Don't use a laundry list to describe your personality or say what your friends think of you. Instead create sentences that feature who you are.

For example, "One of the most fun trips I've taken was white water rafting on the Colorado River- that was so exciting!" instead of "My friends say I'm adventurous and I like to travel."

6. Make your profile conversational. Make the profile conversational so it seems like you are talking to the reader to encourage men to read further and become more interested. But be careful with humor — it's not as easy to pull off as you might think and can backfire.

7. Don't list what you don't want. Avoid writing about the men or qualities you don't want such as "no couch potatoes" or "must be honest." Men will see you as being critical and this detracts from your fun quotient.

8. No "group shot" profile pictures. Don't post group shots of women as your profile photo — men get frustrated trying to figure out which woman you are! Since men are visual, don't think you are getting away with something. You are simply hurting your chances of getting contacted and meet men.

And by the way, Amy did meet her match! By making these changes to her profile and the way she interacted online, Amy is now happily married and has a book deal, too. Data. A Love Story: How I Gamed Online Dating To Meet My Match is being published this month!

For more of Ronnie's dating tips, download her free book 5 Big Turnoffs that Drive Men Away.

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Coach Ronnie Ann Ryan

Dating Coach

The Dating Coach for Women Over 40

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