6 Ways To Keep Your Self-Esteem When Dating A Bully

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6 Ways To Keep Your Self-Esteem When Dating A Bully [EXPERT]
If you're dating someone who's a bully, here are some tips to put them in their place.

3. Set boundaries and limits for behavior that feels intimidating or aggressive. This is so important for your self-esteem. Practice sticking to these limits by saying no, disagreeing with him or simply walking away until he cools off. Please do not expect instant change. This method takes time to shift a person's behavior, so be a bit patient. Watch for signs that he is making an effort. In truth, this may not work – you'll have to see how he responds. Your gentle, yet firm, consistent response to his bullying is the best shot you have to create a shift in the way the two of you interact.

4. Let him know the consequences of his bullying behavior. Explain to your boyfriend in a non-threatening, calm way what happens when he bullies you. You may tell him you plan to retreat until he is calmer and can speak to you with respect. You can also describe how his bullying negatively affects your feelings for him.

 

5. Express your expectation for mutual respect and support. Explain that he needs to consider your feelings and point of view on situations. You can also point out that you feel more inclined to do nice things for him when he considers what is good for the both of you and not just him.

6. Recognize that self-preservation is your top priority. If you try these steps and your boyfriend doesn't make any effort to adapt, you may need to leave the relationship. Bullying can turn into more aggressive behavior with time. If you don't see his willingness to change and his behavior is damaging your self-esteem or worse, becomes more threatening, promise yourself you will leave. There are better men out there who would be thrilled to be in a relationship with a wonderful woman like you. Above all else, take care of number one — that means you!

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Coach Ronnie Ann Ryan

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