So should you sleep with him on the first date? Here's my answer: It's up to you. That said, there is a lot to consider, and you should be certain you can deal with the consequences of your choice.
If you want to have first date sex, be safe and smart and stay healthy. If your self esteem is in good shape, feel free to do whatever you'd like. It's your choice to not care what he thinks, and it's your choice to see him again or enjoy other sexual partners. Heck, you’re a liberated woman and can do as you please. According to a New York Times article, college girls today are having more casual sex than the guys on campus!
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However, there's a chance things might not work out. If you are going to obsess about why he didn’t call, feel badly the next morning, judge yourself or fall apart from rejection, then definitely consider putting on the brakes for first date sex. The reasoning here is not because of what he thinks, but because of how you will react. It's important to take care of your emotional health.
And while fewer men hold onto an unfair standard or peg you as easy, some still do. Unfortunately, it's hard to tell who's a liberated thinker before you do the deed, so that's a risk you'll be taking. (But if he does judge you, do you really want to be with him?)
Yes, some women sleep with a man on the first date and end up in love. Yay for them! But a lot of women have sex on the first date and feel crummy. The cold truth is that, mostly, you'll have a fun night and nothing more. Needless to say, this is the case for most dates; they don't always end in marriage.
If that works for you, enjoy it! If not, don’t throw caution to the wind just because you have the hots for a cute guy tonight. So, sex on the first date? The choice is yours. Just make sure you are really ready for any potential consequences.
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